Suppose your partner had a time limit given by the consultant / specialist, how would you spend that time with him/her?
2006-10-22 07:53:25 · 20 answers · asked by biggi 4 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
I would treat him as normal as possible. Not smother him in other words. How ever, I would do my utmost best to make him comfortable. If he is able physically and we are able financially I would see to it that we travel, not to see the world but to give him the opportunity to visit and be with family that he is not able to see on a daily basis due to living too far away. If this is not possible, I would invite everyone to our home for a visit. Family is so important. More so when you learn you will be leaving them sooner than anticipated.
2006-10-22 08:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you if you are in this position. Remember that despite the consultant giving time limit of illness - it is only a guideline - the person may survive for a good period longer - or sadly pass away before this time limit. Working as a community nurse I have had the privelege to nurse many patients in this position. I always say to the relatives - use the time left positively. Not everyone has the luxury of this time frame. Tell the person all the little things that so often we regret not having the opportunity to say when someone passes away unexpectedly. Share time together, dont have regrets. The memories will help you when the ultimate happens. I hope this helps.
2006-10-22 15:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy whatever time you had left with them doing whatever they enjoy and makes them happy. Be strong for them too, however sad/angry/cheated etc you feel it is far worse for them.
When they are gone life will never be "normal" again but you will eventually find a "new normal".
My mum died in December after having being told in July that she had terminal cancer so I know what I'm talking about.
Also try and look on the postive side, though I know it is really hard when something like that happens. My mum was diagnosed just a few days before the London bombings and the way I chose to look at it was that those people went to work expecting a normal day and never came home, at least we had notice so that we could value what time we had left and lots of people don't get that.
I wrote on the card on her flowers at the funeral "grief is a small price to pay to have been blessed with your love" and I was blessed even though I obviously would have liked her to have been around longer.
Take care.x
2006-10-22 15:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk with them, spend time doing things that matter to them, make them feel alive. This is a hard issue because many times people will run from something like this or close themselves off to others. I would be open, caring and most of all I would not dwell on their limited time.
2006-10-22 14:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by mjh3056 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would spend the rest of my life with that person, until that person passes on, I will not get angry or I will not feel sad, I would stick by this person, and treasure every moment you have with him and her, The worst thing to do is hide from the situation, Because iam sure that when this person passes over he or she wants you to be happy and move on to a greater life
2006-10-22 15:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how sick he was. When my cousin had cancer and her family knew she was dying, her husband and kids took a long holiday and they all went traveling together. That way the family got to spend a lot more time together than they had ever done before and gathered a lot of good memories before she passed away.
2006-10-22 14:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by IC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would be as supportive as I could towards him/her and make the time that they had left as special as I possibly could.
It's a very hard question to answer because a lot depends on how the person takes the news and how they react to it. You really have to go by their reaction.
Good question though.
2006-10-22 14:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cherish every moment, and look back over the happy times of life together.
It must be a devastating experience to have this kind of news.
It would be important to ensure the eternal security of the person, by being born again by God's spirit.
2006-10-22 15:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give up work and spend every moment living life to the full. I would want to travel the world with my loved one so that i had lots of wonderful memories. Then when they finally passed i would re visit these places and keep them alive in my heart with the memories.
2006-10-22 14:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by vic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's happened twice with me. You live as normally as possible but make sure you let them know, (show and tell them) you love them. There's nothing that upsets the ill person more than changing how you behave or live with them, then it's no longer natural, it would make them feel they are defined by the illness rather than for themselves. Be sure to let humour in too.
2006-10-22 15:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋