I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, he is indian hindu, i am white, christian. we are really hapy together but his family still do not know about me. i do not wish for him to lose his family for me but i dont want to lose him either. what should we do?
2006-10-22 07:32:20 · 17 answers · asked by YOLA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If this relationship is other wise, fine for both of you, I should advise you to disclose this fact to his family. In India, the parents do care for the happiness of the children. Although they may have some apprehension about marriages between different cultures and nationality, they will come round to accepting for the sake of the happiness of the children. The only thing that I would like you to ensure is that both of really compatible to each other and that it is not just an infatuation.
2006-10-22 20:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, your boy friend comes from a country where arranged marriages are the norm. This could mean his parents already have chosen a wife for him and if you choose to continue in this relationship you'll end up becoming the other woman. Discuss his intentions with him in a calm polite manner without becoming emotional.(Easier said than done). By the way you have not mentioned wether or not your family has met him. If not why not? Does your family have racial issues. Ask yourself if this is why you have chosen someone of a different ethnicity to your own. If your involvement with him is of pure motives, Many Hindi/Christian Indian/ Caucasian relationships do last and the couples are happy together. However you must understand that even in this day and age many people will try to come between you. This does not mean his family will. Since you have not yet met them you do not know if they will or not. Most parents regardless of their background just want their son/daughter to be happy.
Good luck to both of you
Best wishes for your future
2006-10-22 15:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Often in Indian tradition, courtship is arranged. The parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles...are often involved. I don't know how Western he is, but if he's still living Eastern standards then you both have huge obstacles to overcome. The best way to know where everyone stands is to meet his family. Just do it. You will know what you'll be up against. If his family is not approving, then you need to really think hard about whether you want to struggle having a relationship with the guy or not. When I say think hard, it could affect many aspects in your life. Face the situation by meeting the family. Right now you both are worried about what might not be. So find out.
2006-10-22 14:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give urself some time, some thing are not in our hands let him talk to his parents first and then see what they say and if they are against the marriage then it for him to decide if he is ready to leave his family or u. But for ur good dont get urself too much into this relationship
2006-10-23 06:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cool gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both must come together and decide what you both want in future here . sooner or later truth will rise to top here and then it will look to the familys like a lie to them if they find out by acident from other sorces. be strong and most important do this together and come to conclusion that no matter what they think your going to be together and they either can share in your happieness or suffer outside of it . God says religion or beliefs dont matter in this because wrong or right other may be converted by the shine of your heart or your beliefs . be strong in this and love is all that matters here not what they think but by all means do try to get their approval here . just be patient if one or both blow up on both of you . they will in time accept this seeing that your both serious and in love here so stick to your guns .
2006-10-22 14:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do is to take your proposal to your boyfriends family and see that if they approve for this marriage. If they don't (which is more likely because of their deceptive social compulsion), then go in for court marriage. It may be possible that you will have to fend for yourself but BE SURE THAT YOU BOTH ARE READY TO LIVE A LIFE OF NEED.
2006-10-22 16:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by HITS_ON_TARGET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Hindu and wife is white christian, we have been married for thirty years, we have children and grand children. Either side of our family didn't approve of our relationship and we didn't take any notice of their objections, we are still blissfully happy. So it's up to you and certainly up to your boyfriend.
2006-10-26 12:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Krishna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sure u r deadly in love with ure Boyfreind. people these days r very mean and think about themselves only. u r different dear and i respect ure feelings. i think u and ure boyfreind should discuss this and let ure families know about this. i am sure u will leave a seriously excellent expression on ure bf family. they r gonna love u. god bless u.
2006-10-22 15:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
both of u sit together and discuss this issue. i think both of u luv each iother a lot. so it should not b impossible 4 him 2 talk to his parents about u and try to convince them about accepting u.
best of luck . pray to the Almighty
2006-10-22 15:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by archer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with your boyfriend. Think over again and again b4 taking any step. If his family loves him and cares about him they wudnt mind neone being with him.
2006-10-22 14:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by garg_binod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋