I live with my boyfriend of 5 years and his mother, and the first year we were together his mom took us (me and his brother and brothers girlfriend) all to dinner for his birthday. I paid my own way, but no one else did. She didn't say anything but took it. Everyone else just looked at the money I gave her, and didn't offer. Over the last few years I've been just having friends over to the house for birthday parties. This year she wants to take my boyfriend/her son to dinner and she knows I'm coming as well. Cause we always are together..should I pay for myself? Or assume she is treating me as well? I feel like I should at least offer, it just seems awkward at times. I know she doesn't make much money, yet I don't want her to feel like I look at her like a charity case either.
2006-10-22 07:30:44 · 6 answers · asked by charlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think its good to at least offer I always do unless its been said ahead of time that they are buying.
2006-10-22 07:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got right idea here and your hearts in right place . just pay your own way again unless she stops you and dont worry about others at tabel . if it feels right usually it is . dont assume because she let you do that but no one else that she thinks less of you . she thinks less of the others because they didnt offer and you did . use this thinking in the rest of your life problems and youll do fine . God bless the child whos got their own .
2006-10-22 14:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Frankly you should all pay your own way except for the boyfried whose birthday it is. Sounds like the others in that party are moochers.
2006-10-22 14:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very commendable of you to offer, shows what a kind and considerate person you are. Kudos to you.
PS don't worry about what everyone else does or thinks.
2006-10-22 14:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
proper etiquette would be just to offer to pay, she probably wont let you, but it is always nice to offer.
2006-10-22 14:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by cr4is2py0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this case you should pay for yourself some times and other times i dont think you should but thats only my opinion
2006-10-22 14:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋