Why do girls who enjoy sex get accused of having no self respect?

Question

I have a lot of respect for myself. The fact that I put out a lot for different guys doesn't change that.

Answer 1

Those who enjoy sex aren't accused of having no self respect, it's women who sleep around that are accused of having no self respect. And it's because they're playing Russian Roulette with their body. It isn't the "sex" that displays a lack of self respect, it's the indiscrimination and multitude of partners.

Answer 2

I don't think a girl who puts out for a lot of guys has self respect. There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex, but why not just find ONE guy and have a lot of sex with him? Why the multiple partners??

Answer 3

I think that yes it is a double standard on women if they are promiscious. I have pondered on this subject myself and the only rational reasoning I can come up with is that it is a medical fact that a woman doesn't have an orgasm everytime she has sex. Meaning that if you are having lots of sex but not getting off when you do it, then why bother? And yes, I used to put out alot too but now I am happily married...so have fun, girl and don't worry about what everybody else thinks...just remember to be safe and responsible

Answer 4

Girls who enjoy sex don't get accused of having no self respect, it's the girls who allow themselves to passed around and used who are accused of having no self respect. DIseases, and just plain old mis use is an issue; your intimacy, time, and body, are priceless and should be special. If you allow many men to take part in your "possession", it's not special to them, and it's obviously not special to you...hence the no respect for self accusation.

Answer 5

Culturally, it is our tradition to admit sex as something shameful and therefore we have not never identified it as something respectable.Consequently, sex is a private affair and very intimate in its nature where its participants shed and lose their reservations and inhibitions, and only to each other.
It's true that the ones who participate in the sexual act are liable and responsible to repect each other as they should have regard for the act of sex too.But this is again a private discretion or judgement.

For everyone else who still are conditioned to acknowledge sex as something not to be publicised and made banal, sex still is an act for which one has to concede one's own self-respect and self-image and entrust the same to another, the one he/she's is making love with.
Other people still dont find the act not very respectable but enjoyable nevertheless.By admitting that sex is enjoyable and is enjoyed, one admits of having a sexualized personality.And other people who have not so much of a sexualized personality are not wrong, from their standpioint, too in not outlining respect.
But I am glad that you have enough self respect and do hope your self-belief is reinforced by other people's approval.

Answer 6

I have wondered aboyut this same thing and I have drawn this strange conclusion. Think of a guys orgasm, The stuff leaves our body and we are still clean and untouched as we were before. Now mentally there is the thought of all that ejaculate being put inside a girl from all different guys and she now seems dirty/unclean and with another man's seed. It is a reasonable concept.

Answer 7

Its all about power. Women who are confident and own their sexuality are a threat to weak/insecure men. Women who accuse other women of having no self respect because they enjoy sex may have guilt issues. The real question is, as long as we respect ourselves and protect our health, why do we care what other people think about us?

Answer 8

Well, hey, congratulations to you.

I don't think it's fair that there's a double standard (a guy who sleeps around is a stud, a girl who sleeps around is easy - not my original term, but you get the idea), but I think a lot (though probably not all) young women who sleep around do so not because of a genuine enjoyment for sex but to try to fulfill something that they feel is lacking in their lives.

If that becomes your reason for hopping from relationship to relationship and bed to bed, yes, I think it's fair to say that you have lost some self-respect.

I assume that you practice safe sex (not just anti-pregnancy, but prevent yourself from getting STD's). If you're not doing that, you're not respecting yourself, and I feel justified in saying that, since you aren't taking precautions to keep yourself healthy.


EDIT:
Holly, I see what you're saying, but I think the number of unmarried women who get knocked up and end up trying to do it all on their own, with no help practically or financially from the father, GREATLY overshadows the number of men who get custody of the child "just because he's a man." In fact, if you take a look through actual cases, women have a better chance of getting custody, "just because she's a woman".

Answer 9

I am totally agreed with the comment that Mandy S posted...
U can't judge all the men guilty becoz of part of the men did the wrong thing...
It's your problem too...i think, u may did some mistakes!!!
Sry 4 the critics, but i just wanna tell u the truth...

Answer 10

Why is that when it comes to prostitution, promiscuouity, etc...men are labeled 'dog's...but the women are seen as 'liberated' and 'sexy'...and it's overlooked...?

Why is that when a woman has a kid out of wed-lock she's considered the victim...but when it's a man it's assumed he only won the custody of the child because he's a man?

Why is that when a man is in his 30's and single, he's scared of commitment , but when it's a woman : she's smart and strong for not compramising for a man?

Why is that when a man is up front about wanting to be in a sexual relationship, he's seen as a 'pig'...but when it's a womman, she's seen a 'strong willed' woman who knows what she wants...

Why is it that when a man wants to be wealthy and live a comfortable life, he's seen as a stereotypical, self-pleasing man, or if career-minded and strong, then he's a chauvinist...but women who do the same are considered 'ambitious', 'modern', and 'in control'?

When will men and women truly be equal?