My friend is obsessed with a druggie. I hate him and she knows that. She asked me to go to the park and go see him. But i didnt want to and she doesnt want to go alone. Now that i wont go with her, shes mad because she cant see him. She keeps telling me im not a good friend, and i never do anything with her, and if i ever asked to do anything she would do it. I can never make the right choice, I always have to do what she wants or she will get mad at me. This really hurts me and i hate it. I told her how shes making me feel guilty but that makes her say stuff even more so i feel even more guilty. Shes also Bi polar. Does that have anything to do with it? What should i say?
2006-10-22 07:27:33 · 4 answers · asked by :] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yup. I also was obsessed with a druggie and I also am Bi-Polar. Bi-Polars are prone to extreme behavior and have been known to be very attracted to the bad boys. I have thus far tried to control my urges and am now with a great guy but at the time I was with the other man, my friends and family told me he was no good for me but I resented and almost hated them for telling me, and making me realize that he was far beneath me. I thought I was in love and nobody cared. They turned out to be right, for he turned on me about 3 years later and beat me sinceless constantly. The drugs had taken over his mind and he was seeing things that wern't realy there. My father had to finaly come and rescue me. So all I can say is that you might not be able to get threw to her, she might have to go through hell before she finaly realizes her mistake. Just make sure your there for her and be careful. Drug addicts can be very dangerous, and get things mixed up in there mind constantly. Hopefully it wont take her three years like it did me to learn her lesson.
2006-10-22 07:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by caiforniapoppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right, she shouldn't make you do something you don't like, that's like forceing someone into a religion they greatly disapove of. Tell her up striaght, and as calmly as possible that you don't want to see him cuz of this this and that, if she still keeps pushing you then tell her she needs to find another friend that'll do that with her. She has many times in another day to hang with you. She shouldn't have to be like this. That's not a good friend..plsssshhhh, please. U'r being the true friend, your not only telling her that it's not a good idea to hang with a boyfriend like him, but your also trying to keep your distance from him. There is another way of dealing with this, you could try to convince her to get him into rehab? or you could show her all the negatives of the relationship, and I mean real negatives, not the negatives that could get turned around easly to he did it cuz he loves me kind of negatives.
2006-10-22 08:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the worlds dumb and im thinking ure dumber to share that with us
2006-10-22 07:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i hate him and she knows that" umm, who is she? who is he? you need to explain this a little more clearly because when i first read it, it sounded like he and she were the same person
2006-10-22 07:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by faerygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋