wow lots of comments too bad profiles don't show how old people are. too bad it wasn't more like a forum so one could reply. maybe it is I'm new here... She has agreed to councilling first for her then together so that is good. We still have sex. We still have fun and laugh. but there is definatley ditance between us. I have confronted her and she denies it. We live in a small town so eventually it will come out if she is. financially we can not run 2 house holds. she does not work. and with our debt load I can not pay 2 mortgages. as well as child and spousal support. any ideas on how to prove it one way or the other, without her getting wise and covering her tracks? I am initiating councilling and have told her i will change anything she wants me to .As well I am changing things that I know I have to as well thanks
2006-10-22 07:27:29 · 5 answers · asked by hopingtostaymarried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
counseling is good and try to spend some time with her and talk with her. Listen to what she has to say as well as she should listen to what you have to say
2006-10-22 07:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you still think shes cheating then you need to find a private investigator to prove it.Other than that i don't know.I know after my ex cheated on me there was always a distance between us even after counseling I guess when some one violates you like that it may or may not be something you can just get over...Do what feels right to you.I would never sayjust stick it out.If she dosent work she may need to find a job in order for you to stay with her.If you are the only one willing to work on it is it even worth it?
2006-10-22 07:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by plumcouch30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you have two options here. really find out or let it go and move on. i personally think that what ever is done in the dark will come out in the light. you can hire a private detective. thats costly tho. and i know some people just do affairs just to do them. disect the anatomy of the affair. if its just to get some strange once in a while will you end the marriage? if its a lengthy affair would that be divorce material? think it through..did you do something to start this behavior in her? or is this something out of the blue and you never thougt.....
maybe she had told you in a way that you didnt recognize...like....i want a new kitchen...you said no....she said screw him i'm looking elsewhere...sometimes its that stupid and other times its more complicated. how far do you wanna go with this is what you need to ask yourself...then go from there.....
2006-10-22 07:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by igot_terminal_uniqueness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really, REALLY want to know -- you can find out. You can get a private detective and you
WILL find out. This is very important -- read this: Before you follow her or have her followed, decide what action you will take, if any. What will you do if she is cheating? Will it make any difference? Will things change?
I did a little following myself -- found out I was dead on with my suspicions -- couldn't totally pull the trigger -- got back together with my man after only about a month break-up, and we're having a baby.
I'm happy about the baby, but let me tell you -- things wen't too fast for me. I NEEDED more time. I'm love this man -- a lot -- but there are trust issues.
Again, you can find out if you want. Additionally, my belief is that on some level, you already know.
Good luck to you!!
2006-10-22 07:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is good, as long as it's a good counselor.
IF you think your wife is cheating, you can find ways that she is. Skip work, trail her, watch the house, watch the phone calls, watch her changes in attitude.
I know how you feel!!
2006-10-22 07:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋