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I would like to parent my kids equally and do my part in supporting them but not have them brainwashed against me and pay my x to profit from raising our children?

2006-10-22 07:10:51 · 13 answers · asked by phoneman01830 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

13 answers

Get a good lawyer. Talk w/ your ex.

2006-10-22 07:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by lil one 2 · 0 0

There is nowhere in the civilized world where you can go, except to Marble City. Even there, your estate will probably be turned over to your ex. You see, the state profits from collecting child support by means of incentive money paid by the feds. The courts are bribed by the support collection Gestapo to keep the money flowing. Texas gets $200 Million, NH gets $17 Million. NH courts get $2Million, MA courts get almost $3.5 million. It becomes obvious that child support is not intended to support children, but is, rather, a Communistic "TRANSFER OF WEALTH" scheme. It's part of the Feminist Utopia. Using child support for breast implants doesn't help children. What child needs $3,000 a month in support? Why is support based on the father's income, rather than the actual cost of raising a child? Why is the mother given a $20,000 disregard of income when calculating the support order, but not the father? Why is the mother not required to account for how the money is spent? Why are support orders enforced with draconian sanctions, but not visitation orders?What becomes of the money paid to the state and the courts? Why are mothers given custody in 90 (+)% of cases, when decades of research show that childen need both parents.

2006-10-22 21:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by pclemnh 1 · 0 0

Try the school of hard knocks.
If there is anyone profiting from raising kids I don't know it.
Most ex husbands feel they shouldn't have to pay for food, clothing, rent, insurance, allowance, special occasions, travel, dental, electric and gas. All that is covered by child support and its just killing you isn't it? If your ex is brainwashing your children you better look at your own behavior, Maybe they are just wise enough to see your anger at their mother and it makes them uncomfortable, If you are really a nice guy who got shafted, then your kids will see that too. If you feel the courts shafted you on child support, then file for an amended amount. But apparently you just feel you shouldn't have to pay so much, and that just doesn't wash.
Guess I blew it on the Best Answer part. No one likes hearing the truth

2006-10-22 07:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0 0

Your heart has been touched by bad experiences.

FIRST, you MUST keep in mind that it's the KIDS who deserve the support. Your not paying your ex, it's money to help care for them.

There are ways of stopping the brainwashing, but you DO have to bring it up in the courts. Your children will also even have to expose themselves to the courts to explain the brainwashing.

I haven't seen any men or women that received child support make any profits from this. Most of the time, they deserve more.

IF you feel you can't do anything to ease your pain, move to Mexico o or Canada

2006-10-22 07:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0 0

Just a grandma needs to go bake some cookies and shut up. Men do get screwed. My ex husband doesn't pay court ordered child support, but he helps with our son when I need it. He sees our son as often has he wants and we agreed not to talk badly about each other in front of our son. My current husband on the other hand really got the shaft. He pays over $625 per month in child support (at the time that his child support was set he was bringing home $1201 per month) . $292 of this was his part of day care expense and the child was not even in daycare, but the mother lied in court. She also said that it cost her $260 per month for insurance which he offered to provide (at less expense to him), but she refused. She also admitted that she told their children that their father didn't love them as much as he loves me and that he left them for me. I didn't even meet him until 6 months after they separated. Some women are ruthless and cruel, even to their own children. You can have it put in your custody papers that neither parent nor their significant other can speak badly about the other parent in the presence of the children. If your ex wife continues to do this then she can be charged in court. Get the best attorney that you can afford. The price really does make a difference unfortunately. But it will be worth every penny. Good luck.

2006-10-22 08:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by sleepless in NC 3 · 1 0

After going through this very same thing my suggestion would be (as hard as it is to do).Be the best dad you can be when you have the kids and don't say anything negitive about the ex in their presents.Be as cheery as possible when spending time with them in person or on the phone.Don't fuss with the ex around them.All this is very difficult to do and sometimes almost impossible but it can be done.Trust this advice,it will work and your kids will see the truth in months to come.Remember when you have a bad day the kids will pick up on this and have a bad day too. Good luck

2006-10-22 07:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Family courts are generally biased against the man and that is a simple fact of life in the Western World...
Try divorce in Asia or the Mid East if you want bias in the other direction...

2006-10-22 07:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I wonder what your ex would say to this question? She probably feels like she got screwed in court too. The only people who come out ahead in a divorce is the lawyers. Certainly not the kids.

2006-10-22 07:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0 0

the misconception that your ex profits from raising your kids because you pay child support shows that you do nnot understand the economics of raising kids ... the dispute you have with your wife (and the reason for your divorce) is between you and her, sit dwn and have a heart to heart talk with your spouse and agree NOT to use the children as pawns to hurt each other.

Responsible parenting means neither of you tries to "buy" your kids love, nor try to influence your children as to who is the "good" parent and who is the "bad" parent. You both need to love and guide your children to adulthood by living an example of family values and doing what is best for your children even if that means not being your childrens "best friend", you are their parent, not their buddy. As far as your children are concerned, you and your ex need to make the effort to display a united and consistent set of rules that they have to follow and not manipulate your children for your own selfish reasons, nor allow them to manipulate either of you for theirs.

2006-10-22 07:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0 0

Divorce and kinfolk courts are biased in course of females with children and in custody subject matters. i will not argue that because I somewhat have watched it ensue in the gadget for years and notwithstanding it is particularly extra constructive, it isn't "fixed" yet. females, in my journey, are a lot less likely to need a divorce and could do plenty to shop their marriage. I somewhat have not discovered truly some adult males, notwithstanding there are some, who will actively search for marriage counseling or different remedies to shop their marriage. frequently there is somebody else in touch, both with the girl or guy, and that ameliorations the dynamics of the finished divorce photo on each and every area.

2016-12-05 02:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Sorry but I wholeheartly agree with Justagrandma, can't help ya there! I'm getting the shaft and I'm a woman!

2006-10-22 08:10:31 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

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