Me and my female friend Jen are both 17 years old. Me and her have been best friends for our whloe lives. She was at my house last night. We were in my room watching tv and then I kissed her and then she started kissing me back. The next thing I know we end up on my bed and we are still kissing and then she said make love to me. To make a story short we ended up having sex. I talked to her today and she said it did not mean anything to her. I do you not believe her when she says it ment nothing. What do you think. Do you think it means anything?
2006-10-22 07:00:07 · 9 answers · asked by TOM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Women are changing!!! It use to be that, that moment meant everything to a woman. Either she's afraid of what would come of last night, or she has this mental block of keeping you as just a "Friend".
I bet whats on her mind is that she doesnt want to spoil your friendship (Which is smart of her) and dismissing the action. You should do the same. GOOD M/F FRIENDSHIPS ARE HARD TO COME BY......so play this cool!
You two may be able to take your friendship further when you have decided where your life will go after college. You'll value her friendship much more then.
REMEMBER THIS: Even though your dismissing this action, dont let her use you. If she was to come back and want to sleep around w/ you again, she's just using you for "Safe sex". She trust you because your so close, therefore the sex is better. But, she doesnt want to commit to or trust anybody (Including you....her best friend), therefore she doesnt view your friendship as highly as you do. All that does is cheapen it. If you have any other female friends, have them read this, and they'll tell you the same.
Go along with it, and be happy that you still have your friendship dude, because like I said, you'll appreciate it later on in life. Normally an action like this destroys a friendship.
But dont allow yourself to sleep w/ her again because that will only cheapen your friendship.
gudluk dude and remember, be strong!!
2006-10-22 07:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by diaz276 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she was testing you to see how far you would go, and is not willing to commit into a relationship at this time..Like the saying goes, there are other fishes in the sea and she is experimenting her sexuality and you were there at the right time and the right place...Do you know whether or not you were the first piece of meat she's had? if it isn't, then she must be a closet whore. otherwise it may be uncomfortable to talk about and doesn't want to discuss the encounter at this time because of embarrassment and out of respect to you.. Give it time and maybe she'll open up to you and make a commitment.
2006-10-22 10:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it means a lot. I think she might be afraid you are going to reject her. Did it mean something to you? If it did i suggest you tell her. Then maybe yous can have a relationship which would be a really good one probably because being friends first usually makes the best lovers. Good luck
2006-10-22 07:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by lem604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's being "coy" because she's not sure what your feelings are for her after having had sex. Instead of being up front with that, she's acting very nonchalant about the experience to make you think she doesn't really care. My hunch is that she does care....a lot!
2006-10-22 07:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she said it didn't, then it didn't!
Some friends can have sex all the time and have no strings attached except their friendships.
2006-10-22 07:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most girls cant think sex is nothing, maybe she is afraid that you will loose the friendship you share by taking this further emotionally.
2006-10-22 07:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by mandg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just meant that it doesn't change your friendship with her and that things will not be weird between the two of you since you did something beyond friendship with her...
2006-10-22 07:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably does. She just doesn't want to admit it to her life long "friend."
2006-10-22 07:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋