how do i know if i am good looking?

Question

i think i am, because of compliments and experiences but on the other hand, i know so many NOT good looking people who think they are very hot....
im not superficial, just curious... how do i know i am not one of them?

Answer 1

you look like a cartoon to me

Answer 2

I once had this exact same problem.
After receiving numerous compliments and observing the behavior of others towards me I found myself curious as to the validity of the compliments and my assumptions concerning their behavior.
Ultimately, I decided that there was only one way to know for sure: I stripped naked and stood in front of the mirror. I gave it some thought and came to the conclusion that I was one sexy bastard. The way I see it, the only way to know for sure is by putting yourself in the other person's shoes and asking the question:
"Would I screw myself given the opportunity?"

If my excitement and arousal after standing naked in front of the mirror is any indication then the answer for myself is a resounding "YES!!!"

After considering your following statement concerning your own opinion of the matter as opposed to the honest opinions of others I was left somewhat confused.
Am I simply self-absorbed and narcissistic? Am I egocentric? Or am I really one sexy bastard?
I am more inclined to believe the latter. After all, I was quite stimulated...
Try it yourself rather than dismissing the idea. What could it possibly cost you other than a few moments of your time? It can certainly do no harm.
Who knows? The experience may not only answer your question, it may boost your self-esteem a little. If, on the other hand, you decide otherwise you still have the compliments of others to balance the issue with.
Even if you find yourself at odds while looking in the mirror you can, after weighing those compliments with your own self-analysis come to the conclusion that at least you're not ugly. On the scale of reason should you disagree with it you can always console yourself that it weighs even. You may not be good looking but according to your peers- you're certainly not ugly. Is that not enough?

Answer 3

Are you talking about OUTER appearances? It realoly depends upon YOUR definition of good looking. What are you basing your judgement on? Body? clothing? style? inner happiness? Any number of factors contribute to someone being "good looking" or attractive. It just depends upon what criteria you are judging youself or others by. What is "Very Hot"? Different cultures have different ideals and concepts of what's good looking. In China YEARS ago, women with very tiny feet were considered good looking (so at birth or very young their feet were bound in cloth to preven the growth). In some African tribes (don't have the time period), having your ears pierced and extending the hole to the size of a dinner plate was considered hot, as was putting a large ring in your nose between the nostrils. Those are just examples, but you can see that what ever culture you are in is what dictates how good looking someone is. I have green eyes and when visiting Hong Kong in the 1960's that was very unusual so many of the native people there complimented me on my "jade
eyes" and wanted to have a photo taken with me (I was only 9 years old). You would do well to study Anthropology, both physical and cultural when you get to college. You will begin to see that outward looks are not really important so much as inner beauty is. Some of the "un-attractive" friends I have are the most beautiful people I know and I don't see any flaws they may think they have outwardly. Superficial people tend to be very selfish and shallow focusing on how they look rather than who they are.
Your best bet is to get comfortable with yourself, develop your own style that suits you and most of all be happy. Your happiness will radiate and other positive people are attracted to a person that has inner peace. Don't worry about being popular, be YOU! If you see things about yourself you don't like, change them. You are the only one you should have to please.
Good Luck and Be Well.

Answer 4

well ask some one that you know but not like a best friend cause they will always tell you what you want to hear. and if your getting compliments from other people then take them. also if you feel that you are beautiful then believe it don't always listen to what other people say about you because sometimes it is not always true. take it from me i have had experience in this part of life. soon you will be thinking the best of your self. but remember the best part of your outfit is not where you bought it. its your smile and your confidence remember you look great no matter what any body says to you

Answer 5

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The saying goes way back. I think it was Will S. who wrote it. My second wife was no winner in the looks department, as I heard many times from so-called "friends". But she was a kind and loving person who was always there for me. Sometimes, personality plays a role. You could be a big cow and have pimples, but if you have the "right stuff" in the personality department, it does not matter. Love is. Ciao!

Answer 6

You know by the amount of people who tell you. If everyone around you says you are, then you probably are. You can ask your friends to take a poll to see who they think is the prettiest, you can then see if you get any votes. Don't vote for yourself, then everyone will know that you are stuck on your looks ( which is apparent by your asking this question).

Answer 7

Well I guess the people you're talking about think theyre hot to get over the fact that theyre not. Most people tell themselves things and after a while they believe it

Answer 8

When I analise your topic you "think "your good looking, keep very good in mind that goods looks must come from the inner instead from the outer.
Most people who think of there self that their good looking are mostly" Ugly" because of the arrogance, remember arrogance comes before the fall.

Answer 9

This question doesn't say much for your intelligence, does it? Ok, maybe it's the fact that lots of guys pay attention to you and want to get together with you - do you think that might be an indicator?

Answer 10

Beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. If you think you are pretty and act confidently then people will find you attractive. Good luck.

Answer 11

Most of answers have already said it all. Beauty means different things to different people --- how they were raised, their mothers and other women in their lives, etc. So just be yourself, develop good character, principles and morals.