ok i've like this guy since the start of june of 05', we are friends but i've like him and he doesnt know...ok well i'll wake up in the middle of hte night thinking about him...hes in alot of my dreams, and when i'm around him i feel different like i'm safe....and when i think about him i get butterflys in my stomach....alot of my friends keep telling my I'm in love...what do u think? love or Obession?!
2006-10-22 06:53:45 · 21 answers · asked by cayla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well me nad him are actaully good friends, we hang out almost everyday, nad i taled to him alot!! so yeah..
2006-10-22 12:41:07 · update #1
love would define your feelings depending on how old you are. Most teenagers are confused with that. It is neither an obsession because if it so, you would be overdoing things in negative ways in most cases..
Let's say you just have a deep attraction over that person, or a crush.
2006-10-22 06:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off.. only you know if your in love.But usually it takes 2 to be officially in love.My guess is...If this guy is a friend of yours and he has no clue about your feelings for him..I would say it was a crush sweetie.Crushes are similiar to obsession but obsession is too strong of a word in your case hun.When I think obsession I think glen close in fatal attraction lol.Now... if you 2 are more than friends and he shares the same feelings it may very well be love.
I know this may be difficult for you.And if your in highschool or college.I knwo the thought of walking up to someone and saying hey I like you,Im sure it would be mortifying.But tell him hey,,,, I like your company and I would really like to get to know you better.would you like to hang out?Try to get him alone if your in a group social setting and then do your magic.Sit next to him flirt with him.He will get the hint.Dont worry about rejection.Whats the worst he can do? Say no.Thats beauty about being a woman this day and age.We can call the shots too.And it sounds like you have been liking this person a long time.What have you got to loose sweetheart.? Absolutly nothing.Heck maybe you would finally get a goodnights sleep.At least then if he doesnt share the feelings you have you can move on and find someone who deserves you
Remember there are no guidelines for love.We are free to choose who we love ,Even if the love is not reciprocated.Thats the true beauty of it ... there is no critera for love or guidlines.Sometimes it just happenes.
2006-10-22 07:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by serena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a crush. Crushes are a bit obsessive but we usually don't call them that unless you think of harming yourself or others over it. Why not enjoy it? Take a chance. Ask him if the two of you could get together for something. Have a plan. It doesn't have to be fancy, just a fun afternoon or evening. Do something about it, though. Women seem to think we can read their minds. We can't, and there will come a time when you regret passing up your chances.
2006-10-22 07:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to tell, especially on-line. It SOUNDS like obsession, since you haven't mentioned whether or not you've actually met with/talked to/gone out with the guy. And you haven't really mentioned any of his internal qualities that you like and that are compatible with you.
The best test will be time - if you go out and hit rough patches and stress and still come out feeling like you're in love, you're probably in love.
Of course that's not a guarantee either, a lot of people like to think they're in love and stick through the hard times because they're afraid of being alone/afraid they cant find anyone else/better.
2006-10-22 06:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by bumbleleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always obsession at first, time is the answer, picture fat and unattractive, sick and poor, would you still get butterflies or just a I am going to throw up feeling? Attraction is fleeting, love is real. Take some time. good luck.
2006-10-22 06:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it could be either or both. Know the feeling well. It's exciting and awful at the same time. There's an old song (can't remember the name of it, my Mom used to sing it) part of the lyrics go - "You're not sick, your'e just in love). How true! : )
2006-10-22 07:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like love to me. Obsession would be going through his dirty clothes because they smell like him. As long as you haven't hit this point, I wouldn't worry. Feel around him a little bit. Try to open up to him and get a feeling on how he feels. If you get a green light impression, tell him. You never know what will happen.
2006-10-22 06:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Tara C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The butterflies signify lust, but the feeling of "safe" is something more. I'm not sure what you would call it. But why don't you tell him how you feel, there's no use in feeling all this emotion if you can't share it!
Good Luck.
2006-10-22 07:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the exact same way... I would call it. both. love makes ppl blind. and one has to be able to controll it. or it turns into pure obsession. ( which is NOT good). give the guy some space. ( i know its SOOO HARD!!! ;( .. but give him some space and let him know that you are there for him... no matter what. and start hanging out with him.. get to know him better. and see if you TRULY like him
2006-10-22 06:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by :) BE HAPPY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in love. If it was obsession you would be all stalker type and would be in denial all the time over him. You would create stupid things in your mind and would put any new information about him liking someone behind. You would also act as if he was your god or something like that. Other then that, your in LOVE!
Peace out!
2006-10-22 06:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋