ok, so I have a guy friend, who got his hear broken by a girl- friend of mine too. Now, they are "at war" .. and I am in the middle of it. ( b/c I am friends with both of them). after 4months of not talking to her ( I kind of... took sides in this whole deal.. but I mean.. I am leaning towards him by like 51 %... and her 49%) , she has asked me to "hang out" with her. (fyi: we are not too close of friends. Me and this guy-friend, are closer. ) (fyi: we are all in different colleges, so we barely get to see each other. ) ANY ADVICE on wether I should see that girl again would be really helpful!
2006-10-22 06:47:16 · 6 answers · asked by :) BE HAPPY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think it all depends on who u like more, and who will be there for u wen da other ones not, but i think u should continue to tlk to both of dem and let each of dem no, ur true friends and true relationships, it won't matter dey'll still be there, friends don't choose eachothers friends right? if dey really like u and will be there for u dey won't mind u tlken to each of dem but be careful how u do it or u might loose dem both!!
2006-10-22 06:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by insko2713 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only spend time with her if you want to. Don't go in guilt or thinking that you can rekindle your previous friendship. Ask her ex [your admittably closer guy friend] how he would feel if you started hanging out with his ex again. Also has the argument, "war", cooled off yet? If it hasn't you might want to steer clear of any one-on-one time with her for a bit.
2006-10-22 13:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a true friend, tell them BOTH that you do not wish to be put in the middle and that their dispute is between them and that it is not fair to try to force others to choose sides. Hang out with either of them as you choose but refuse to discuss their dispute with EITHER of them
If they try to talk about their dispute or each other to you, REMIND them BOTH that they "are preaching to the choir" and that they need to discuss their issues with each other, not others outside the dispute.
2006-10-22 13:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't see her again, except if you want her as a girl friend.Good luck
2006-10-22 13:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by lorenzzzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's an ex for a reason, and you have other things to do.
2006-10-22 13:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel.Tell her in a good dont make her feel bad .Make it easy for her.
2006-10-22 14:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by sheyla malave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋