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Okay, here's the deal. This is a two part question, and anyone answering has to promise that they won't insult me, etc.
Part one: I know a girl who claims to be a lesbian, and she's kind of pretty. No, I do not want to go out with her, I just want to know if it would be odd for me to have her as a friend. I don't find it weird, I just want to know if anyone else would find it so.
Part Two: This is entirely hypothetical. IF I were to ask her out on a sort of date (like watching a movie, etc.), but not like a DATE, would you think that anyone would find that odd? I just want to know, because if I end up doing this, I don't want to have people hounding me because what I do. I already get that enough as it is on my own, and I don't want to drag anyone else into it.
Answer away, but remember that the second part is ENTIRELY hypothetical.

2006-10-22 06:47:01 · 12 answers · asked by matrixneo_1392 2 in Family & Relationships Friends

Just so everyone knows, I'm not worried about what people think of me, I could care less. What I'm worried about is that some people I know get in people's faces when others do things that they don't do. I just don't want her to get hurt because I like her as a friend, that's all. You guys seem okay with it, I just don't know how everyone else will feel.

2006-10-22 07:11:21 · update #1

12 answers

first one: GOD NO! having her as a friend is just as normal as having a straight friend. there is nothing wrong or weird about it. second one: again, NO! if u like her as a friend and you want to hang out with her, thats cool. if anyone thinks its weird, forget them! its like, would you question having a friend who was a different color? theres nothing weird about it!! as for the ppl who have a problem with u hanging out with a lesbian, lose em!! they dont have to hand out with a gay person if they dont want to, but whether u do or dont is none of their business. moral of the answer: GO FOR IT =]

2006-10-22 07:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Bohemo 2 · 0 0

She's a friend. Plain and simple. It won't be weird for you to be friends with her. how many woman are friends with gay men? As for going and seeing a movie or having lunch friends do that. You really shouldn't worry about what others will think. If you try to make everyone happy, you'll never be happy. Don't try so hard to please everyone. If you want her as a friend and know you'd have fun hanging out with her, there's nothing wrong with it because, well, you're happy and having fun. If someone nags you about it, let them know she doesn't nag you about everything unlike some friends.

2006-10-22 06:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tara C 2 · 0 0

There's nothing wrong with having a friend who is homosexual-they're people too. Part 2-no, no one would find it odd that you and her went out. Since the two of you have different sexual orientations, it would be a night out amongst friends, with nothing more attached to it.

2006-10-22 06:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by my2girls44260 2 · 0 0

Gays and Lesbians are people too and perfectly capable of being as good a friend as the next person, regardless of gender. I am straight but I have gay and lesbian friends but to me they are just people and I would happily go out with them socially. What other people think is their problem.

2006-10-22 06:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

here is the real issue... are you so weak of character that you feel the need to appease your friends to keep them or avoid criticism or are you a man of character who will stand by his beliefs regardless of what others think? Its your choice whether you wish to pander to people whose friendship is so shallow that they would withdraw it for being true to yourself. BOTH parts of your question are immaterial because this girl's sexual orientation should not be a consideration if the friendship you offer is sincere.

We choose our friends for the things we have in common, not for the things we dont have in common. Put in basic terms, if you and all your friends liked Fords and she liked Chevys, would you not offer your friendship? its as rediculous as that ... you can be your own man, or you can be a sheep.

2006-10-22 07:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0 0

I see nothing wrong with either category of your question. I have a gay friend whom I adore. He has been my friend forever. We did/do things together whenever we have the chance. He's gay, not unvaluable. Don't worry so much about what others think. Enjoy yur friend. People are people.

2006-10-22 06:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sounds like you would like this girl as a friend becasue of her charater and personality.... I say go for it... Second one yes.... but only after you develop a friendship with her... then it is friends enjoying similiar things..... Go for it bro I think its cool it should not matter what ones sexual orientation is. What matters is the charater of the person

2006-10-22 06:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by scotdic 3 · 0 0

I am completely heterosexual, but I have two very close friends who are lesbian. Yes, they go out with others - including men - but they do this as "good friends." They have both had hetero relationships, including marriage. They don't hate men, they just prefer women.

2006-10-22 06:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0 0

Follow your intuition on this and don't be concerned about whatever anyone else thinks. It's never "odd" to have good friends- regardless of their situation in life or their sexual orientation...

2006-10-22 07:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0 0

why do u listen others people voice?in ur place i wouldnt care about them cause its ur life not their.if u like this girl u go out with her not with them,and nobody can possible know if shes lesbian or not.do what u feel not what other wants u to do.

2006-10-22 07:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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