i'm simple girl ..n i've faced a storming breakup with my boyfriend whom i'd loved very much..
at that time one of his friends who is also very close to me helped me to come out of this all.....he is always with me
n i'm feeling as he is having love feelong for me..n sometimes i feel same too.
but he is my ex bf's best friend if i'm involved with him ...then won't it create any problem for all of us ?? plz suggest
2006-10-22 06:44:54 · 8 answers · asked by neha 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
well my advice is to be careful. Sometimes getting tangled up with friends of former loves is messy and causes more bad feelings than was necessary.
It may be his friend feels somehow 'responsible' for making sure you are OK and coping, maybe his loyalty to his friend is causing him to try and ensure you come out of this with self worth and dignity.
You may also be so raw from the break up that you are mistaking genuine care and empathy for love. Or you may be finding it hard to come to terms with the break up and somehow feel that by keeping a relationship going between his friend and yourself, you might create a way back for the two of you?
None of this is wrong or abnormal, people feel so hurt and insecure during the weeks and months following a break up that they are not always rational and don't always interpret what is happening in the way they would ordinarily.
Spend time healing yourself, maybe have some time away from the social circle you shared within your relationship, so that you can start helping yourself over this. Sometimes absolutely no contact is the only way and that often means time away from friends you shared. otherwise you are constantly picking at a healing wound.
Maybe later, in a few months, if you still feel there is something between this man and yourself then it would be more appropriate for you both to consider a relationship,right now you need time to rediscover yourself.
2006-10-22 06:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Eden* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi this is a difficult one.. ask yourself, what do you want to accomplish,, ? HOW LONG HAVE YOU KNOWN THIS GUY,? has he known your x-for a long time,,?:
IF THIS GUY IS COMFORTING, YOU, COOL, IF HE IS GETTING INVOLVED, THEN MAYBE HE APPRECIATES QUALITIES IN YOU, THAT HE HAS KNOWN FOR A LONG TIME,
YOU SAY HE IS BEST FRIENDS WITH YOUR X..
HOW "BEST" ARE THEY?
If he is a nice guy, and you have an attraction,, i suggest you remain frieinds, cool it off a bit.. give it some time, and then if he still wants you in lhis life..take it slow and respectfully.
your x and you are thru.. if he does not pursue the thought of you getting back together,,then if you have things in common with this other guy go for it.
JUST REMEMBER,A STIFF ____________YOU KNOW WHAT HAS NO "CONSCIENCE" and if it is just a quick fling, perhaps you should rethink it.. it will only cause pain and look as if you are getting even or whatever..
Everyone has a right to be happy, and just because this guy is convienent, does't mean he is your type.. so be aware of things,, and good luck
2006-10-22 07:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man is no good, he is not being a friend to ur ex, he knows exactly what he is doing, trying to get to u! he wants to sleep with you and he is not honoring his friendship which makes him not trust worthy, he has not a lick of honor, he shud go find his own woman instead of chasing his best frieds ex, if i was you i would move on and find other people and grow, seems to me in this situation u r going to do the same thing over again with this man and u r expecting a different result, which will never happen, run girl find some honorable people
2006-10-22 06:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by menguss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
..hi neha..!! i watch your profile interesting..u asking about sufism and also about verginity..and now this question..this all is not showing that you r a simple girl..u know..!?! wt is special about sufies..their friend is only the Master, Guru..they crying for him,dying for him,singing for him,dancing for him..and they get price money the almighty to watch the God..
now on your boyfriend,if the problem is of right and wrong..than be with right..if you take pain for right than God will be happy for you..
..and the vergin is that person who is fully aware to his body and soul,because it is not about your physical relations..
keep your heart clean,mind fresh and always do the favour of truth..an if you want sufi material or if you think that we can share more than knock knock at "shakti1432ss@yahoo.com"..i will help you..take care bye
2006-10-22 07:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by shakti1432ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get over your ex before you jump back into the fire. sounds like your ex bf's best friend is trying to get the left overs. you need to get both guys out of your life and concentrate on yourself first.
2006-10-22 07:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big problem. He might lose a friend, and you
could be accused of cheating.
Are you two ready for that.
2006-10-22 06:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very first thing for you to do is to learn how to communicate. There are rules that everyone follows that make communication possible. You should learn them before you ask another question.
2006-10-22 06:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
from the wazs u wrot thiz you are young grow up first and get a dictionary
2006-10-22 06:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by rradboys 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋