arranged marriages?

Question

Could someone please tell me how arranged marriages work and how parents choose wives for their sons

Answer 1

who said arranged marriages work always????
anyway......
i'd say... it depends... on the 2 people involved....
if luv plays any part at all... wel its a happy ending..
or else... u kno, right?.......
and
wn parents arrange marriage...
they seem to use their experience and knowledge on their son's likin.... to find a suitable bride....
(and not for money or status anymore!!!)

Answer 2

as far as i'm aware, most arranged marriages r mapped out when the couple were children.
choice is usually mutual between the families whether 4 sect purposes, social standing, keeping a family 2gether ( usually 1st/2nd cousins ) or sadly 2 get other distant family members in2 the West.
no, i haven't had an arranged marriage, they've been out-lawed here in the UK 4 many a year.
but i guess it is quietly allowed 2 go on behind closed doors 2 keep public relations, sweet.
i have met couples, who were " promised " 2 each other as children, have married, as their families wanted and over time they've fallen in love.
it's not without it's fans but we also have a generation coming thru now that R rejecting the idea, i think a backlash ensues.

Answer 3

An Arranged Marriage in India is defined as a the type of wedding alliance brought forward by parties other than the bride or the groom -- typically the parents.

Considerations for Arranged Marriage
Since the traditional Hindu society and its caste system didn't allow dating or free mixing of the sexes, the arranged marriage was the only form of marriage in the society. The parents typically considered educational background and economic background in addition to the caste to choose the brides and grooms.

Arranged Marriages Today
The arranged marriages are quite common even in today's India -- only the criteria has slightly changed. The rigid caste system is somewhat diluted and marriages outside of the sub-caste are considered, so are marriages outside of one's own language or province (still within the same caste). Though Age, caste and dowry play important roles in arrangement of marriages in India today, more and more arranged marriages today take into account the preferences of brides and grooms, something that did not happen till 1970s and 1980s.

The Institution of Arranged Marriage
A marriage in India is considered a marriage of families rather than the marriage of individuals. Once you understand this concept, one can even appreciate the beauty of arranged marriages. The parents try to solder the bonds with their friends by arranging marriages between their respective children. In olden times the boys and girls married in their teens so it was considered appropriate that the parents choose the spouses instead of leaving the decision to the kids

A type of arranged marriage where the maternal cousins and sometimes maternal nephews married was/is also common in India. This was known as rightful marriage alliance in some communities, and possibly came into existence to "keep the money inside the family".

The Process of Arranged Marriage
The steps involved in an arranged marriage vary by communities and families. Sometimes they involve extremities such as "promise made while gambling" or "bride whom the father of the groom likes", but here are the most common scenario, and the process can break down at any step -- mostly earlier than later.

Broadcast of Availability - This is when the guardians of the groom or bride announce that they are looking for an alliance. Securing of a stable job, engagement of an elder sibling, graduation are some of the events triggering this step.

Horoscope Matching: The interested parties trade birth horoscopes as a sign of showing interest. Those who believe in horoscopes consult with astrologers and priests to find out compatibility. The compatibility score is often used to reject an alliance.

Photo Exchange, Interview, and Background Check: Till this step the bride and the groom do not know what the other partner looks like! The pictures (and sometimes videos) are exchanged and if in agreement, one or more face to face interviews (called darshan) are arranged, during which elders are also present to help with familiarization. Background inquiries are conducted to dig past, bad habits (smoking, drinking, anger management problems) through relatives and friends.

Dowry and Contract Negotiations: The logistics of marriage are then discussed. Who pays how much for the wedding expenses, the gold, the dowry, girl's and boy's net worth, the house they'd live in etc.

Engagement: If all the parties are in arrangement, sweets are shared to announce the engagement this marks the end of arranging of an arranged marriage, and the gift exchanges begin.

The Role of Matchmaker
Depending on the complexity of marrying (not so good looking bride, divorcees, past broken engagements) Middlemen could help in the arranged marriage who are commissioned by the arrangers. The matchmakers are sometimes professional institutions counseling on "resume alteration", "broadening of selection criteria", and other marriage matters. The matrimonial classifieds (like personals in the west, but placed by the parents, for the attention of parents) are very popular. With the advent of the Internet, there are a lot of matrimonial agencies on web (some of whom are advertising on this site).>rr

Answer 4

hey its always better in arrange marriage is best compared tolovemarraige....why because our parents about us very welll..they know each & every action of us & also know how v react to a situation....so there is no doubt that they will choose the best pair for their son... they will surely select the best band the exact pair for us..

even if they happen to have some distute each other, the parents will come first and solve... this is the main advantage in the marriage parents do...

but if in case oflove marriage, if they happen to have some dispute, the parents will just say that u choose the girl so u itself manage the girl..


so arrange marriages r the best....
take care bye..

Answer 5

In my opinion arranged marriages are best suited keeping in view of the good relationship and eternal love between husband and wife. Parents search the list of boys and girls through the marriage information centres or through Internet and examine the proposal in all respects. Then taking consent from the boy and girl the marriage will take place on an auspicious day.

Answer 6

Usually works when the culture is homegeneous enough so that the vetting process (responsibility of the parents) narrows the choices to someone who will be well-adjusted in their opinion.

As with lal human relationships, it may or may not work depending on the individuals affected - nothing to do with how the choice was made.

I've personally seen several working arranged marriages, so I think "unlikely to work" is a canard - though I can understand it's less appealing for persons with an overly-romantic viewpoint on life.

Answer 7

karina- arranged marriages r like arranged programmes.
when u organise a programme u have to make so many arrangements. isn't it? then the programme is successful.
similarly when marriage is arranged by elders they take into consideration every aspect of the boy- i mean, his family background,his job, his income, nature, behaviour, family circles etc. if not every but most of his walks of life r judged,, so that the girl is happy after marriage.
so these marriages r more successful.
ok ,anything else?

Answer 8

do u know in court divorce cases mostly from love marriage.70% of the cases between 26-30 age jus they want to seperate. both sides they wont care about this prob. But in arranged marriage is better in this modern world.

Answer 9

a matchmaker calls the parents with information about a girl/ boy. the parents then look into the girl/ boy to see if they will be compatible in any way. if they are compatible, the boy and girl then go out. then only if they like each other do they go out again. they are not forced to marry each other- they decide that by themselves. the only part the parents do is to arrange meetings and check into the boy/ gil first. the rest is up to the couple.

Answer 10

Do they still do that? I know years ago in some cultures they made the arrangement when the kids were a young as 10.

Answer 11

though my marriage is not working still i can say...marriage is a sacred thing..and i trust in the bond..be it love be it arranged one...dont get scared. But its obvious that the parents are really demanding kind!! THey act as if they are in a marriage-market...u knwchoosing or buying something. If you are not reday dont go for it!!!