what to do?

Question

I am in a 5 year relationship and we just had a baby 2 and a half months ago, well i was wondering because he never helps with any of the house chores expecially dishes (i do work to) should i let him get away with it? Also he don't make me feel that spacial anymore, he don't seem as interested in me anymore, he says he loves me and all but how can i be sure he isn't just staying for our son?

Answer 1

You need to sit down together and talk about this situation. Figure out who will do what chores. Start doing things together as a family now. Don't go separate ways.

Answer 2

I also had a baby recently andI just made myself this same question? Is he with me because of me or because of our baby girl.
I you know what? Children, no matter how much you love them, they alone are not enough to hold any relationship. If he's with you is because he wants to, and you should believe in that.
Another thing, you said he doesn't make you feel that special anymore. Well, let me ask you something: have you ever considered that maybe the problem isn't with him, but with you?
You're a mom now, and personally, I think that nothing can be more special than that. Nothing compares to what your baby makes you feel. So maybe you might be kind of comparing this two very different things.
If I were you I would give him a chance to prove you he really loves you and that he's with you for you, and not for your son.
At least give hiom a chance, okay?
Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Having a baby always puts a strain on the relationship. It takes a lot of work to stay in love, to see your partner as your lover and not just your baby's dad. Tell your boyfriend that you need his help around the house and that you want him to show you that he is still in love with you

Answer 4

well i think maybe dis guy is still getting used to having a family thing and maybe he really don't no how he should act, or maybe he's just a little weirded out. but u gotta ask Ur self of he didn't really love u den y would h of stayed wit u for 5 years? dis guy does love u, but maybe he's a little lazy, u should talk to him and ask him to help u, don't be pushy bout it or he will try to get out of work 4 sure, if it still doesn't work, just stop doing i t yourself, it might get nasty but just don't do NE thing for him and i think he'll get da point and come around

Answer 5

comphremise with him tell him that you are taking full care of your baby and that you need his help with the house work and that you do not have time to do any chores while providing for the baby, he needs to help you with chores because the baby's needs come first you shouldn't allow him to get away with it tell him you desparately need his help with the housework

Answer 6

He thinks he is in a marriage without the leagel paper involved. YOur like a wife and he is treating you as his father treated his mother it is a learned trait and you allow him to do this. What do you want?

It is important tell him it's going to keep bothering you until you say something.

Answer 7

are you sure you still appear good before him? and/or making yourself available even for a hug? or are you just keeping yourself busy & neglecting the man of the house?

Answer 8

He is a loser, get out....If he is not helping now, he never will. You deserve a break too, and help. Afterall, it is his kid too.

Answer 9

Have you tried telling him you're feeling neglected?

Answer 10

Talk to him