Trying to get to a point in life where I can trust again. Love is wonderful to be in..and catastrophic to fall out of. As is an airplane...I'm still falling...where is the ground already!!!!!!!!! No chute, no worries..but the view is grandios! I'm not in love....or maybe I am..Maybe I'm trying to move on...I don't know anymore...My apologies for the reptition...but I have this twang n my soul that tells me to turn around..............and look back at an old flame? The burn scars still there.....but I just can't seem to stop caRING!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for the time you spend reading this...Answer w/compassion..and truth. Have a great day.
2006-10-22 06:15:12 · 2 answers · asked by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Whoa! slow down. Life has only one direction and that is forward. If something does not work for you, drop it and go on to something else. It has been my experience that when something does not work out, it means that there is something better waiting down the road. have faith in yourself and follow you path wherever it leads.
2006-10-22 06:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing sounds like a tormented soul.
You have so many questions here.....
The first 3 in the title~ then some in the main question...
1. Hitched? is that married? Marriage is important if you want to create a family unit. Otherwise, it really serves no purpose besides Taxes, Insurance and the moral code of fundeamentalist.
2. Love enough? Well actually NO love is not enough. You must be connected on many levels of humanity. If not then the uniion will not last or it will feel incomplete or lacking untill those other needs are met. Only you know what is most important in your life and what you "can and can not" happily accept in your world to be at peace with the mate you have chosen.
3. Fair for Meddlers? Well once again- People like to ask for help and when you ask, you get advice, like it or not. So if you don't want information or more so action on another person's part, then stop asking or better yet address the "issue" with that person and tell them you have come to a solution. Thanks for your support and this is what my plan is....and I'm stickin to it on my own.
Every person has a agenda- you parents want to be grandparents or you to finish college or what ever. So they will try to influence your choices, you must appreciate that and release it as their ideas for "what they feel is best for you".
With that said, Friends and Family often have much clearer vison of the mate in the "true sense" of the person and just the "rose colored -love goggles" that you may be seeing them throught. So I would listen to all advise from valued loved ones and evaluate it, apply and appreciate it was given in love to you.
OKAY- LOVE- That's a chemical reaction and its wonderful and very fleeting. You must identify and accept that before you become obessed with the ephophia of the "love drug" be sure to see your actions as serious things. You must realize that when you are this vunderable that you will get hurt so be wise to use caution and patient to use a timeline. There is not a rush to the finish with "love" ....the longer the beginning the longer the entire process.
Old flame? Let it go- when love has past we often worrry and wonder WHY?...Well if it ended, then there was a valid reason why one or both of you ended the relationship. Stop wondering and putting your life on hold for the "past", it will never be the same again, even if you are with them again in the future. You can never recapture the past. That's a reality.
Best wishes.
btw-sorry if misspelled anything- to fast and to long for spell check to keep up.
2006-10-22 14:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋