I need help from all you single moms out there.I have been married for 2ys and have a problem with my husbands ex-wife and don't know if its me or not.My husband has joint costody and is scheduled to get his child everyother weekend. We all live in a small town and his family has many family fuctions. If the fuctions fall on the ex's weekend rather than ask if we could swith weekends they just invite her to come. This makes me very uncomfortable as we are not on good turms and i feel she just goes because she knows how i feel. I have spoken to my husband and he says what can i do they invited her. When i did get him to speek to them they got mad and said just get over it we just invited her because we wanted his child there. But why not ask us first to see if we can get him before just inviting her? Also is it wrong for the ex not to ask us when she gets the invite she knows how we feel about this? So am i just overeating my husband said we won't go when shes there
2006-10-22 06:04:45 · 7 answers · asked by verizontec98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been divorced for about 3 years now and have 2 daughters. I do not have any contact with any of my ex husband's family. It would be too uncomfortable for everyone, especially since he's engaged and I'm with someone else now.
2006-10-22 07:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by my2girls44260 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well welcome to hell... Unfortunatly EX's can be a major pain and since the in-laws are inviting her the best thing u can do is just not go. Maybe if his parents see that u are not going they may try and stop inviting her. The line of them wanting to see the child is silly, they can come and see the child when u have them. So please do not stress out over it just not go. I don't think that the in-laws realize how confusing this all can be to kids to have the mom and the step-mom in the same house.. it confuses them as to who they should be nice to or show affection to as well.. Try and sit down one more time and explain this to them and if they are not willing to budge then sit home and enjoy ur day when they have the function.
2006-10-22 06:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all right i have no clue on the situation but you need to pull together for the kids sake!!!!i have 2 children myself and the one that suffers are the children...what would you do if something serious happens to the child and the mother was there? yes that is a different case but you need to think of the child instead of how you feel. the mother of his children will always be in his and his familys life. and when your jealous of the other person it can cause you and your husband to fight and thats very selfish... i have the same problem with my youngest fathers family but i don't let that bother me because i know who he is going home with...so i get along with every one in both of my childrens lives. it makes no sence to complain due to the fact she will always be there( graduation, marriage, grandbabys, ect.) you really have no choice in the matter.
2006-10-22 06:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by wendy p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think the ex needs to attend family things she could just bring the child and drop them off
2006-10-22 06:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by teresa n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember what you do is for the child...it's not always easy being the bigger person! i hate seeing my ex and his new woman, but he is entitled to be a part of my daughters life...i even cringe when i tell my daughter to give m.... respect but i do believe it is her best interests that i act civilly...as for these events, i honestly believe that if she knows it bothers you, she will be at every one!! he is with you and that's the important thing!!
2006-10-22 06:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by bev_lev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up. My ex inlaws love me and always will. They will always be my kids Grand parents and I will always be a part of their lives. I t dosent mean I want anything to do with my x.
2006-10-22 06:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I do have a good relationship with my in-laws, but I would just make the best of it. Your husband loves you and not her so just grin and bear it
2006-10-22 06:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋