He has huge debts to pay every month,which are likely to remain for next 10-12 yrs,if the salary continues to remian what it is now.He is a class one professional.He cant concentrate on anything cos of overwork and depression.He gets angry and unreasonalbe intolerant of his juniors in the workplace for negligible mistakes.He says he is deprived of normal life his colleagues enjoy.He is single and lives with his mother.Unmarried.
2006-10-22 05:45:22 · 10 answers · asked by aquarian 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He is working hard with overtimes,from the last many yrs.
2006-10-22 05:57:31 · update #1
His dad's debts.
2006-10-22 06:00:54 · update #2
I myself have been dealing with some similar issues, not to this extent, but similar. I have done a lot of spiritual reading and in the past year I have completely shifted my awareness and allowed a better life for myself. There are two things that I think would aid your friend. One - He ABSOLUTELY has to change from thinking about what he doesn't want, to what he wishes to experience. It is scientifically PROVEN that thought has the most effect on physical experience. If all he thinks about is 'debt', or getting out of 'debt' - then he will recieve more debt!! Tell him to focus on being a money magnet and let go of the fear of not having enough. If he is overworked, then he should focus on a relaxing place for 15 minutes a day. If he is depressed, it is because he is focusing on all of the things in his life that he does not want. The easiest way to shift all of this negative energy, is gratitude. SO IMPORTANT!!! If all of your focus is on what you are grateful for - then all you can recieve in your life is more of what you are and will be grateful for!! This may sound like self help nonsense - but I have been living my life like this for 6 months now and the results have been astounding. I meditate daily on what I wish to experience, and I have faith that it will happen. I focus on what I am grateful for and I have faith that more of it will come into my life. This is called the law of attraction - like energy attracts more like energy. If he wants to change and see change, then he will. "Become the change you wish to see in the world" - Ghandi wasn't playin'. Tell him to go to www.thesecret.tv and pay 5 dollars to watch this film about the law of attraction. It has changed my life and others around me. Let me know if this was any help to your friend. I will keep u all in my thoughts and prayers - Be well
2006-10-22 06:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he single. That may be one of his biggest problems. Are the debts his own or someone elses?
Only he can make the changes he needs to have a life.
I don't believe he is a class one professional or a class one anything. He is a little boy in a man's world and he has gotten himself in a box. He is the only one that can get himself out of it. If he hasn't learned it by now. He has to learn that you must pay the piper if you want to dance.
2006-10-22 05:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him Dave Ramsey's book The Total Money Makeover. This guy is pathetic, you know, and needs to shape up and take responsibility for what's going on. This book will help him get control IF HE WANTS TO.
Don't expect miracles. A class one professional with huge debts overworked and depressed - I just don't carry much hope for his suddenly accepting responsibility and taking positive action.
Good Luck
www.daveramsey.com
2006-10-22 05:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand his demise. I am 39 and live with my parents. I wake up every day wondering when I will have the income to move out. Until then, I attempt to find more work. I concentrate on reducing my spending and continue to pay my expensive college loans. Occaisionally I do go have a drink to relieve tension and sexual relief is also important. Don't mention that to him unless you have him a good partner.
2006-10-22 06:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dan M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whao, ok first, good thing he has a friend like you around. If he is still using his credit cards, TAKE THEM AWAY from him. If he talks to his financial institution, they would be more than happy to consolidate all his debt, so he only has 1 bill to pay every month. They will plan it out for him and tell him how long it all take to pay off. Good thing he is living with his mother [thus less bills] He should ONLY BUY what he needs NOW
2006-10-22 05:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems he's wallowing in self-pity. He has options, but he's not seeing them. He could focus on increasing his income (extra part-time job for example - I work 2 jobs). He could use basic coping skills to release tension and stress (exercise, deep breathing, journaling). He has many choices, but is focusing on how awful his situation is. Break it down into small goals - looking at the big picture is overwhelming.
2006-10-22 05:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by JJJJJJJJim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, Dave Ramsey's book is a wonderful encouragement. Also, since he can't concentrate.....etc. Get this guy outside for a walk. Exercise, believe it or not, does wonders when you are feeling yucky about life.
2006-10-22 05:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a workin man..unemployed..(displaced for a moment) and every day I don't earn I fall deeper. Some say I should take a break..But I can't. BE THERE FOR YOUR FRIEND..HE NEEDS YOU....I UNDERSTAND HIS PAIN. Help him into Church.....before he reaches a point of no return
2006-10-22 06:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is only money. file bankruptcy. if that does not work then just do not pay and ignore them. let them take your stuff but not your peace of mind.
use your intellect to cope and survive. join a monastery. donate all your stuff and start over.
2006-10-22 05:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let him suffer with the consequences of what HE has done to himself. DO NOT help him in anyway. When he gripes about his debt...well, who made the debts?
2006-10-22 06:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋