for men who married women who aren't virgines. how you deal with it?

Question

now i am not talking about marrying a divorce or a widows. i am talking about women who slept with another man or men without marriage.

how do you deal with the idea that another man screwed your wife before and she let him do it. and God! i don't want to talk about the details of what people do during sex.

how do you deal with this especially that my mind is very deep and imginative.

Answer 1

I was a virg and my wife not, I know exactly how you feel. Try get over it other wise it will just cause endles trouble, if you realy love her and you have somethig good going, it will just cause unecesary trouble. Trust me, when shes gone you wont even remember about her virginity, because its not all that important. It seems like a big thing to you but you will eventualy work through it. Goodluck mate.

Answer 2

What a strange question - I am a member of an organised religion and ~I would not expect a woman or a man to be a virgin when they married. This is the 21st Century and the mores of this century and this country are different to how they were 80 -100 years ago. No matter how imaginative your mind - people enjoy active sex lives and women don't "let him do it" they participate actively in the act!

Answer 3

Wow, I would suggest you get counseling. I wouldn't think there were that many virgins out there so basically your choices are pretty limited. I think you need to realize that women have needs too and just because she had sex with other men doesn't make her a bad person. I wouldn't suggest that you actually marry a woman that has had sex with another man until your own issues can be resolved. You will only be hurting yourself, and her, if you do this.

Answer 4

Much the same way a woman deals with a man who has bedded numerous women before her but has pledged to leave the past in the past!!!......


#1, Stay single and or lonely.
#2. Wait for that very elusive virgin man to happen along, or,
#3, Be realistic! in Thoughts and Deed!!

Answer 5

"screwed your wife"....well, she wasnt your wife prior to marriage...that's what you need to 'get over'. Perhaps your ideals about sex are more sacred than the act of sex...which by the way is something very normal to humans and animals alike. Youve made it dirty just by your question and statement. I predict you'll have a very bad sex life unless you marry a virgin.

Answer 6

my first wife was not a virgin, but we took our marriage vowels in this way. she wore white to symbolize the fact that she was entering the marriage free of the things that hap pend before, and i wore black to symbolize that the past was the past. and what had hap pend before would not be brought into the relationship, and for the twenty one years we were married it wasn't. we both remained faith full to each other and did not fool around with the opposite sex until after she had served me with the divorce papers. we took our vowels seriously for as long as we could

Answer 7

What is there to get over? Sex is a natural part of life. There are more important things in life to worry about than how many partners your new partner has been with. She is with you now and that is all that matters. If you pursue this with her, all you are going to do is make her think you don't trust her. Don't do this to yourself or her.

Answer 8

Are you a virgin? How does SHE feel about the fact that you have had sex with other women? Who the heck do you think you are? She had a life before you came along you idiot. You need to grow up, jerk.

Answer 9

Are you a virgin? Probably not. You deal with those women the same you would deal with any woman. It's the same way for everyone.

Answer 10

It depends
if she is habitual and take this as light thing in life
tell her to go
it depends upon ur cultural background also
new world not bothered too much abt this matter
but tribal ppl lives revovle around only this thing(how their
woman folks are)