My friend since forever never showed up at my wedding dance and earlier in the week she said that she had to work but was trying to find someone to work for her but she doesnt have a hard job because she sells scratch tickets somewhere. I think i have every right to be upset but i dont want this to be the end of the friendship. I would have done anything to go to hers. Any advice?
2006-10-22 05:23:33 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am not judging her job because it isnt her real job because she has two part time jobs and she does this job for her baseball team to raise money so if she doesnt show up for it then someone else who works there could do it.
2006-10-22 05:55:52 · update #1
BFF? Give her the benefit of the doubt~
2006-10-22 05:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by GiGi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Granted selling scratch off tickets might not be a demanding job, but its still a job that pays her an income that she probably needs.
I have no doubt that you are her best friend and she would have loved to have been there for you, the fact is that she could have lost her job and gotten a bad record for being fired if she just skipped work without anyone to replace her.
Just think about it for a while. Do you really think that your best friend would want to miss your wedding? Of course not. Don't be too upset about it. It's not worth losing a friend over. Now it would be another thing if you were on your death bed or in serious need of help I guess.
2006-10-22 05:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to lose a friend; your friend thought enough of your friendship to tell you the truth. If you think you feel bad, can you imagine how she feels right now? Not only does she have the struggle of finding someone to take her place at work and not being able to attend the wedding (for her best friend), she now has you thinking negative as well. Question: why on earth would a best friend miss your wedding? Answer: She wouldn't miss your wedding unless she just couldn't chance losing her job and livelihood.
Give her a hug and tell her you are sorry for being angry, your friendship is too precious to let it go because she was trying to save her job.
Think the best of people until they prove you different, because people are basically good (especially best friends) That's why you chose each other.
2006-10-22 05:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, close friends are still friends that have lives outside of you and your life. If you esteem this person and know this is unusual behavior, then perhaps it has nothing to do with you but just the circumstances of the situation. If this person has been a latch-key friend for a while now, just let it go.
Friends come and go in life, no need to create unwanted drama. The most important thing in your life right now is that you have a spouse.
2006-10-22 05:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by bansri47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. In my opinion, a person that won't show up for their good friend's wedding dance should not be considered a "best friend". If they were really your best friend, they would have said, "You know what? This is my friend, and if I really care about her, I shouldn't be at work right now." Talk to your friend. If she has no better excuse for not showing up, then dont consider her your best friend. She can be your pal, bu someone like that is certainly not a BFF. Love, CJ x0x0 <33
2006-10-22 05:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you may be upset but you need to realize something. It doesnt matter how difficult or important you think her job is or isnt. Maybe she just has a good work ethic (not too common nowadays) and if she couldnt get someone to replace her, she felt she couldnt abandon her job, which is exactly what she would have had to do to attend your dance.
2006-10-22 05:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you don't want this to be the end of the relationship, it has to be done. Any "good" friend who misses a big occasion like a wedding, is not a good friend. Therefore, you should terminate the relationship. I would quit my job if I wasn't able to get off of work for a friend's wedding.
2006-10-22 05:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to be upset! For such a good friend that you've known for so long should've been the first one there. If i were you, i'd wait a few days to clam down a little and then try tlking to her and honestly tell her how it made you feel. And you have to remember there isnt anything she can do about it now...
2006-10-22 05:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by SiLLYsTRiNg4499 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have every right to be upset but you should talk to her about it cause maybe theres a better reason. Its your choice wether to end the friendship or not but i wouldn't cause if you have been friends for a long time and this is one of the first time things then just let her know that it really made you mad but forgive her cause you really can't do anything else
2006-10-22 05:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any advice? Yes, get over it. If your friend chose not to risk putting her job in jeopardy to attend your wedding dance I would say she has a good head on her shoulders. I'm sure she tried to find coverage, and if she wasn't there I am sure she failed.
Yes, your wedding dance was (hopefully) a once in a lifetime affair for you, and you would have done anything for your friend to be there, but I doubt you would offer food, shelter, and clothing for as long as it was needed if your friend got fired for skipping work.
2006-10-22 05:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dc3402 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever thought that perhaps she likes you so much that she could not bear to see you get married?
Quite possibly she sees your wedding as the beginning of the end of your friendship as she knows it. Possibly it is, but if it isn't and you want to retain her friendship it might be a good idea to tell her so.
2006-10-22 05:27:39 · answer #11 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋