I am 18 and I want a baby. I talked to my fiance he says ok lets do it. any advice would be greatly Appreciate

Question

I really really want a baby. please I need all the adive I can get.

Answer 1

Sure, having a baby is great!
Just wait about five years and get married first.
You really, really won't regret it!
If you go ahead and do it now, it won't be long before you understand exactly what I'm talking about, and you'll wish you had waited.

Answer 2

I think you should wait for a few years before getting married or trying to have a baby. I got married at 24 and I feel like I was definitely too young. You might not think so now but marriage does place a lot of limitations on your life and if you you and your fiance really do love each other, you will still love each other in a few years. You can be together without a ring and a marriage license and especially without a baby. Think about what is best for the baby right now and not what you need or want, that is what good parents do.

Answer 3

I know that you probably don't want to hear this but 18 is a little young to have a baby. It is a lot of work that doesn't end when the child turns 18. You will for the rest of your life be responsible for another humanbeing. You both need to have good jobs and be finacially stable before you even think of having a baby. If you have a baby at 18 and then the baby has a baby at 18 you will be a 36 year old grandma. Babies may seem like a fun idea but after a few months of sleepless nights you will feel differently and so will your fiance. A lot of young girls want babies because they want someone to depend on them and love them but it is really selfish to create a new life just to make yourself feel loved. You really need to explore the reasons why you want a baby without even being married first.

Answer 4

First make sure you have the cash. I mean alot of cash. Plus before you make a baby have yourself a house and a good job with benefits. Otherwise without good benefits it will cost you all your money. Unless you plan on taking advantage of the welfare system or living with you parents. But then that becomes their decision as well. I don't know what you should do. I personally think you are to young. You haven't even lived your life yet. What are you gonna do when your friends are out having fun at the bars and your stuck at home with a three year old? If your boyfriend wants a baby well then make sure he can afford it as well. So many people have children at a young age, and then the child suffers because his parents are poor. Plus the neglect they get from their parents because they don't get the attention they need. It will all be fun for awhile, until the responsibilities of parenthood kick in. Then the guy will probably bail out on his responsibility and you will be stuck with a baby while he is out knocking some other young dumb teenager up.

Answer 5

First wait until your married. You truly do not have a commitment from him until that happens.

While I had my first at 17, and my second at 21 I wouldn't recommend it. I love them very much of course, but it was definitely not an easy road (financially or emotionally).

You also have to accept the fact that chances are very good that you will be raising the baby without your fiancee. That's being realistic, not pessimistic. Women change SO much between the ages of 18 to 26 your partner and you will become different people in a few years. Sometimes you're still compatible, most of the time you're not.

So, if you feel like you can deal with the very likely possiblity of the single mom factor, and the financial aspect then that is your decision.

Answer 6

I am 19 and pregnant with my first baby! My fiance and I decided that if it was going to happen it would no matter how hard we tried to stop it. Before we started really trying we went out a got some baby stuff to see if we would be making enough money, and we do. I was so excited when I found out. If you think you can provide for a baby, and have the time for one, then just let things happen. Make sure your man knows what having a baby means.

Answer 7

If that is what you want then go for it.. Remember that having a baby is a big responsibilty are you sure that you are ready? If yes, then plan it right and prepare for motherhood. It is a great experience, I have 3 children and I am pregnant with my 4th and I am loving it however, it does get a little hard because it is not as easy as it seems... You will no longer have that freedom for yourself... If you like to hang out with your friends, you can't do that if you have a child or children.. So think about it and make sure your boyfriend is going to be there too support you..

You are young and I think that you are at a good age to have a child and good luck to you...

Answer 8

You are way too young to have a child. Do both of you have a good paying job? Your own place to live? Diploma? Live your life a little first. Most people that I know feel like they are missing out on things because they were a parent too young. Children are very expensive!What is your hurry anyway? Children are awesome even if you have them in your 20's,30's or 40's . Get financially stable first.

Answer 9

nicely, i think of the question you may desire to ask your self right this is, in case you stored the toddler, could you be waiting to supply it with a competent life? Will that be the excellent selection for you life? Will you sense sorry approximately your selection and sense undesirable which you had an abortion? If the respond to those questions is particular, than don't get an abortion. yet, on the different hand, if it extremely is not any, then i think of you ought to evaluate it as an selection. Abortion does no longer propose you're heartless or something. If having this baby could break your life, then I propose you abort. interior the long-term, it could be right for you and the toddler. it extremely is thoroughly your selection. i wish i helped you establish. stable success! :D

Answer 10

my advice dont do it ur 18 and young are u really ready.. do u have a birth plan , a financial plan, a healthy bank account, a steady income flowing job, a mortgage plan, an account set up for the kid, like an education plan for the kid, a healthy savings account, a good credit, space in ur life for ur kid, a college diploma to be able to get a good job, if u dont have any of this do not have a baby yet