what should i do???
2006-10-22 05:09:25 · 15 answers · asked by ronald g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OMG.. sounds like you have your hands full! I read a book a few times and it's a God send. It basically deals with communication with children and adults. It's written by moms, not PHDrs. I highly suggest it.. it helped me get through years of hellians.. LOL ! IT's called "How to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk". by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This book can be found at any Chapters or local book store.
Remember, big hugs for the kids at night no matter what and always read to the kids very night no matter what. Create a little special "library" for the children so they can ocassionally choose which book to read. It is quiet time and it creates a lot of bonding between the partent/step parent and child. Good luck !
2006-10-22 05:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by FunInTheSun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
4 and 5 year olds don't' listen too well anyway.
Get yourself some books on raising stepchildren so you can see what you are in for. At that age they are still fairly easy to distract so you can try that. You also want to be sure that you aren't expecting more for that age than they can deliver. Hence the books. Try to remember that they are not fully baked yet and do things more on the spur of the moment than with any animosity toward you. As to what should you do? Make sure their Dad is on the same page as you are so you present a united front on things, you will have to find a quiet time to speak to him about this. Sometimes Dads try too hard to be the "nice" one after a divorce. This never works as children need parents not friends. Other than that, have a good stiff drink at bedtime (yours) and know that thing can get better.
2006-10-22 12:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children do that. They can get on 'adults' nerves. You have to realize that they are needy and want your attention, especially in the very young ages where they so dependent on everything from adults. Just simply saying 'they get on my nerves' , take a look at how you are.
Are you acting like an adult/parent or an older sibling? Your question seems like you probably act like a disinterested uninvolved older sibling.
2006-10-22 12:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and what kept me from going insane was just ignoring them, when the kids started acting crazy i would disapear, but that gets old so when they started acted crazy i would make them do push ups or stand against the wall with their arms out and theyre legs bent. Hope you find something that works
2006-10-22 12:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 at that age they get on everyone nerve
2 take charge of the situation
3 stop being a step be a father
4 stop impressing their mother by letting do whatever they want
*experience with my husband he was spoiling my children
soon as I told him they not mine but ours if they become rotten little jerks he would have to deal with them
now he is a father meaning no is no/ take away the computer, the game when he has to with out me having to get involve
Once you stop worried abput being the bad guy the will respect you
2006-10-22 12:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to be for real and step into that parental position then you are gonna have to step up and treat them like your real children, but not in just a disciplinary manner in all manners. If you show them that you care for them like that they will respect and listen to you.
2006-10-22 12:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by LO 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to counselling. This is normal behaviour (acting out) for children who have lost their security. You being the adult must get the help to deal with this difficult problem. Good luck :-)
2006-10-22 12:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does your husband support you when you discipline the kids? if he doesn't then they will never listen to you. talk to you husband and tell him that you need his help. please don't tell me that your one of those people that when the kids are being bad you say [ wait to your father gets home your going to be in so much trouble] because if you are one of those people they are not going to listen to you. you need to take control when it happens, not wait for him to get home.
2006-10-22 12:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beat them senseless! This will make you feel better and then you will spend the next 20 yrs in jail and wont have to put up with their crap.
2006-10-22 12:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they r testing u to c what u r made of, if u get too harsh, its trouble, but if u r too soft, still trouble, therefore u need to find a balance, and find it quick
2006-10-22 12:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by auntymadness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋