I been going out with her for a short time like 3 days. I really like her but she dosent want her mom to find out she gose out with me casue she says her mom dosent approve people outside the church. I see her everday 4th period marching band but i cant hold her hand really or show we go out casue some people might tell. She is my first gf but i want to hug her and hold her hand but we cant do that. I feel bad when i see her casue i cant hug her or anything. Anyone had this happen to them before i not looking to changing her mom jsut to see if anyone had the same thing happen and it turned out good.
2006-10-22 04:49:44 · 14 answers · asked by yerffeJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
see if you can visit her after school and her mom can slowly get to know you--like do homework together at her house or something. Maybe her mom will warm up to you and not mind her daughter seeing you once she gets to know you.
2006-10-22 04:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she knows her mom will not approve and she is afraid to show you feelings publicly then maybe she is not the right one for you. I know you might have strong feelings for her but if she is not showing you those same loving feelings, then why be in a relationship? Maybe it's best if you two be friends. If that's not possible, then stop seeing her altogether. A relationship should never be one sided. It takes two people to make it work and oviously she is too ashamed to at least meet you half way in showing you how she feels. This is not worth your heart ache. Find someone who is not ashamed of you and can be with you openly. A relationship like this will never work out for you. Wish her well and offer her friendship. Maybe you two aren't meant to be for each other.
2006-10-22 05:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While there is some level of fantasy in keeping a relationship a secret (i.e., something that only the two of you share), this sounds more like a relationship that will never work out...unless you're willing to go to her church and convert to her religion - which if you're doing it for the right reason (i.e., not for a girl) then that's not a bad thing. If you're not, her parents will eventually find out and force her to break up with you, or one of you will grow tired of hiding it and decide to break it off. Either way, I'd say cut your losses and find someone who will accept you for who you are (and hopefully her parents will, too).
2006-10-22 04:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is understandable, she respects her Mom. So the thing you need to do is start to go to her church, and take it slow, so the two of you can have fun, listen to her, and once her Mom sees that you are in the church, then she may approve of you.
2006-10-22 04:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if her mom doesn't approve and you two have already started going out, i think it is best you nvr tell her mother. her mother seems to be the over-protective, controlling type, so it'll be really hard to get her to change her mind.
If you want to keep your relationship a secret you probaly won't get far. i suggest that you join her church and interact with her friends, and, if the oppurtunity arises, introduce yourself to her mother. XD
2006-10-22 04:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by witra92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her and want to make a good impression on her mom start attending her church and take it from there.
2006-10-22 05:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by L@M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well keep it low. but go to a group ov movies with liek 5 guys adn 3 girls and tel your mom you'r jsut hanging out. she might catch on but probably not.
2006-10-22 04:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by snowflake10012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's definetly playing around with you.. She's not sure. I had the same thing going on with me. I'm pretty sure if she finds a better guy she'll dump you. Sorry for being harsh..
2006-10-22 04:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Tutenstein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sorta depends on how much you like her but it this keeps up for another week or so then you should dump her. if her mom doesnt like her choices then f her. if you really really like this girl then tell her that you are going straight to her mom and tell the mom that you too really like eachother and are going to continue dating. her mom cant control he likes and dislikes if she loves her daughter then she should accept your gf's feelings for you.
hope this helps :)
2006-10-22 04:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sydney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but probably over time she will come around and be more affectioniate, if not dump her, get with a girl who isnt ashamed to be with you in public!
2006-10-22 04:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kit Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋