my friend is totally obsessed with turks! shes 15 and shes going out with a 35yr old! he just wants to have sex with her, and a visa to comne to london, i kbnow this because es cheating on her, but she doesnt believe me! she has like millions of turks emails on her msn, its like turk world! what should i do! i think shes being used! ive tried telling her so have her parents so has everyone! but she wont listen! and they keep on trying to have cyber sex with her but she dont like it but she doesnt do anything about it, she doesnt even say anything, i understand she like attention but come on! and wen she went on holiday she even shared a room with that 35yr old! and theyre planning to get married as soon as she turns 16! what can we do to stop this! shes ruining her life!
2006-10-22 04:39:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's searching for the love that she didn't get from her parents (probably her father). Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do except continue asking her if she thinks this is really "right" or what she would do if the situation were reversed...what would she tell you? And then either be willing to help pick up the pieces when her world falls apart (and you know it will) or tell her that you can't support her and if this is the path she's choosing for her life, then she'll have to go it alone.
Then rest easy (at least as much as possible), because you've done all you could.
2006-10-22 04:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortanately there isn't much more you can do when she refuses to listen no matter what you have told her or her family has tried to help. It is sad, but she is gonna have to learn a hard lesson from all of this. Hopefully she can wake up soon and realize that she is flirting with disaster. This is really a dangerous thing she is doing with men that she really doesn't know and they should know better than this. It is a sick sick world out there that we live in and sometimes these young teens get caught up in it all. Now her parents can report any of these men to the police. I would turn over the computer to the police if I had to. Maybe they can catch some of the guys. Because she is underage they can get in trouble even if she is taking part in it. I would consider going to the authorities if you think this something that she could possibly get pregnant, raped, or even killed doing.
2006-10-22 11:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your friend is crazy and this Turk is a criminal. They both should be punished. The girls parents should stop her from seeing him and even stop letting her use the pc becuase she is ruining her life. I think that you should do nothing about this... you've done your part and you should stop there!! If you 'll keep on telling her that she is doing wrong maybe she could stop from being your friend so be careful. Goodluck to your friend
2006-10-22 11:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Police is the beat answer....but if not this 35year some other 25year will come it....The best thing is to change her mind...Try bringing to her notice that she is being used ...HOw? Look U put a mole in the story and contact the same 35 yr old...he will surely come to knees for this also ...make your insane friend a witness to this...maybe she understands....
2006-10-22 11:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Vijay God Loves U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents are the ones who need to put a stop to this. They need to notify the police that this 35 year old man is after her. They should take away her computer, do whatever they need to do to stop this.
2006-10-22 11:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go with her own decision. she should be punished for her decision. remember when a person dont listen to u,there is no need to make any pressure. it may distroy ur image to everyone. let her know that the world is not very much easy as the view of only 15yrs old. u tried from ur place.if she doesn't hear to u then what to do?? never mind.........i know its; sad to u but every one is his/her own designer of his/her own life.
2006-10-22 11:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has ruined her life already. at 15 how did she go to Turkey? share a room? at that age and w those hormones, just keep a sisterly watch, for suicide, murder, gang rapes, visa entry cheats, etc. cross your fingers. and mind your own life.
2006-10-22 11:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by kamesvari i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her life to ruin.
Everyone has already done what they can. It is up to her to make you own mistakes and discover for herself that she is being used. You can't expereince someone elses life for them any more than you can protect them from screwing it up by not heeding anyone's warnings.
Just be there for her when she is all alone with her turkish babies!
2006-10-22 11:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off if he's 35 and she's 15 then he is a criminal and should be out in jail...maybe you need to call the cops! He could seriously hurt her, do you want her harm on your conscience?
2006-10-22 11:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take her places so she has no computer alone time?
2006-10-22 11:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋