Maybe there wouldnt be so much divorce if people actually dated and got to know the person they are with. You have so many people that rush into marriage and dont even know the person, then you have the people on here that put others down for dating.
2006-10-22 04:37:47 · 9 answers · asked by sweetie1995 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People don't seem to date the same way as they used to because there is such an emphesis on sex now. Media and the internet have flooded the world with sex and images. What used to be a private matter is now right there out in the open. Men have used this new society to actually convince a lot of younger ladies that if they want to hold on to their man they need to put out. It is almost like oral sex is the "new" French Kiss. Women really used to be more in control of sex and if they met a promising young man he had to court you, date you, prove his love, even jump through some hoops! The funny thing is though that through that process you were really able to find out if you were compatible and right for each other. Nowdays people just don't put in the time. If you want your relationship to last, or for it to grow into a solid marriage that lasts, the dating game has not changed. People still need to know about each other, before you can love anybody you had better like them first. You also have to remember this about Yahoo! Answers, it is fun to read and maybe share an opinion here but the only people posting here are the ones with problems in their relationships... there are millions of happy people out there whose husbands are not cheating, addicted to porn, or begging for anal sex... Most of us are happy and healthy, and if our relationships need to be worked on, we know how to do it. I hope that I helped you a bit.
2006-10-22 04:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily 'dating' but more why are people just chasin on lustful impulses and short term goals? Lots of people rush into love based on "oh damn he's fine, oh he LOOKS nice, oh he got a job, big one, all these good first impressions only contribute to the 'halo' effect. Notice i never mentioned personality....and even THEN some people lie or play someone else for the sake of that first impression. So all this, they rush in, and then the truth is revealed, or the little problems that everyone has becomes large and in the open.
Most people have no patience, and instead of makin the effort to work it out, they use divorce as an escape. No abuse, no beatings, just cheating, or just disagreements, and they run away from the problem. Cheating i can understand, but problems that can be compromised if you just TALKED? That's the problem. NO one has patience, no one can COMMUNICATE....of course there ARE the good couples, and the people who value the long run. So it's not completely gone....but until the spoiled americans learn to have patience and show some EFFORT when it comes to making a worthwhile relationship.....then the whole idea of love will be drastically skewed.
2006-10-22 04:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right, people are in such a rush they jump over the steps to getting to know each other, and I don't mean in bed. To often people jump from hello to lets have sex and marriage isn't even a thought. I think not only is there so much divorece because of people rushing into things, but there is a big lack of comitment, people don't want to be tied down, but they like the "thought" of marriage. Marriage is a commitment that is not ment to be broken, "till death do us part" does not mean until I find someone else I'm attracted to or your no fun anymore, it is for life. Call me old fashion but that is how I believe. And I'll take it a step further, which I know by saying this many people will disagree with me and think I'm crazy but I think that sex before marriage is wrong and can have effect on your marriage.
2006-10-22 04:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People date more now than they ever did before. However there will always be some impulsive people. The modern problem is people are selfish when they get married. Many people I know divorced because at lease one partner assumed control over the other instead of seeing the marriage as a partnership.
2006-10-22 04:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are correct. People rush into relationships the same way that they rush through their lives, trying to get "everything" done. Dating also makes you more vulnerable, people often times don't feel comfortable in relatinships. Or, they truly don't want a relationship, are users, etc. and you have less chance at getting "caught" if you never spend any time with someone.
2006-10-22 04:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by sboyle9453 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree! I think it should be against the law to marry someone you haven't known for at least two years! It seems like we are doing things backwards these days! People jump into having sex, to see of they're compatible, instead of seeing if they're compatible, to have a lasting marriage! Do people still want that? I wonder!
2006-10-22 04:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG it's weird!! Well I dont really know. Maybe people are into like work and stuff!
2006-10-22 04:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is the times honey . Everyone dated in my day. Do what you feel in your heart is right,
2006-10-22 04:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be your own person, and do what your heart and feelings tell you to, and forget what others think or say.
2006-10-22 04:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋