If I go I might be able to stop her from making a huge mistake. I have high moral standards, hers are slipping. I can't condone infidelity, it's a friendship breaker for me.
2006-10-22 04:23:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you haven't told her already, she needs to know how you feel about her choices. I'd suggest she spend her weekend in couples counseling.
2006-10-22 04:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all a "girls weekend" isn't ALWAYS a bad thing - married or not. You have no business going if you want to stop her from making a huge mistake. Think of it like this, you might be able to stop her this time, but what about the next time, and next time, and next time????? Being someone's friend sometimes means that you be their friend in good times and bad - unless they screw you over or sleep with your husband. Perhaps her moral standards aren't as great as yours, but you still call her your friend!!! Just because she messes up you want to cut all ties - sounds kind of harsh to me. Perhaps you should stick to hanging out with a church group or something. Everyone is different, we all make mistakes, at least she is making them and hurting herself and not hurting you. Be a better friend, and don't go if you only want to "save the day." Go to have fun and enjoy a weekend away from the hubby/kids/pets and let her do her thing - who are you to judge???
2006-10-22 11:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that too. I didn't understand it at all, and would get into bitter arguements with her about it. Finally one day, she broke down and confessed that she was terribly unhappy in her relationship, and how she suspected her husband was cheating on her too. Well talk about dysfunctional! I told her to have a sit down with her husband, and if necessary, seek help. She did, they did, they seperated, and got remarried about 2 years ago. They've been happy since. What I'm trying to say? Talk to her first, see what her motives are, see what's fueling this destructive attitude, and go from there. You never know, her acting this way could be a cry for help.
2006-10-22 11:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you take a "girls weekend" to a spa or some place where the temptation for her would not be as strong. Otherwise let her know that you are not comfortable with the weekend and if she's just going to cheat then you'll pass. Stand your ground, if she cannot accept you for who you are then she's not the kind of friend you need.
2006-10-22 11:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are happily married w high moral stndrds. she unhappily married is slipping into infidelity and cheat. you have not been able to influence change in her all these years. SO NOW IS JUST THE TIME FOR YOU TO TURN AWAY FROM HER> If you go w her you will get the first sights smells atmos of XXX. Some wine will make you fall. Now decide???/// hey you sound you desire to go under the pretext of saving a poor dirty angel.
2006-10-22 11:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by kamesvari i 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it is going to be a girls weekend then why would she go out of her way to include a man in that? I am thinking maybe you should go, she might just want just that, a girls weekend to get away from her husband, nothing wrong with that, and maybe that is just what they need is time away from each other, go with her and have that girls weekend, you don't even need to bother her with saying if she cheats or if she does anything, why bother her with that? if she does just leave and go back home to your husband
2006-10-22 11:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go. If she'll cheat, then at least you wouldn't know. What might happen if you see her cheat? wouldn't that be more difficult for you. Then you have to decide if you are going to support her or tell her husband. That is a situation that you wouldn't want to get yourself into. At the end, everybody hates you for spilling the beans..
2006-10-22 11:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Clio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had some wonderful "girls weekends" with my female friends. None of us cheated-the last thing we wanted was to be anywhere near a male. We wanted to go and blow off steam by shopping, swimming, dining out, and watching movies.
2006-10-22 11:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay out some ground rules without getting too specific. You can't stop other people from doing what they want to do... but if they do...you can walk away.... time to see what she's made of... You might find that she just wants to hang with you.
2006-10-22 11:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Minding your own business is the best option a lot of the time. i see no reason not to enjoy a good weekend away
2006-10-22 11:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by land.zero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋