i feel alone,sad and hopeless?

Question

i feel i have nothing in common with anyone...i am shy and want to chat with people i meet but i cant bring the "barriers" down, and end up sitting there in silence not knowing what to say....
yet i love people, and would do anything to help them but feel so awkward,,, maybe because i was ignored as a kid and unloved?

am i a weirdo..?

Answer 1

look in the mirror once a day and tell yourself: " i am gorgeous"
look at the kind answers you have got from all these people... you are not weird just a old softy like me!! stay happy.. good luck

Answer 2

You're not a weirdo at all. I think the best place to start would be finding out about some self esteem classes in you local area. The are run in groups with like-minded people. That way you can address the problem and also be safe in the knowledge that you aren't the only person who suffers in this way.
It will be difficult at first, but once you've made the first step the majority of the hard work is done. It isn't your fault what happened in the past, but your future is in YOUR hands. You can make it easier. -
GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

Unless you love doing something it is hard to find motivation. If you have are in school and have a project to work on find a topic that you can use all 3 talents on, maybe an article that has a piece of written work, and a drawing that is edited to look better with photoediting. Even if you haven't, think of something you can do that interests you. It is not always about how good you are, it is often about how original and imaginative you are. Even if I do say so myself I am an extremely talented artist, writer and good with editing images, and I also have a wild imagination, yet ask me to create something original such as a book and my mind goes blank. So this is how I know that it is about good ideas and not just good talent. Many friends have been absolutely terrible artists yet captured peoples imagination with their new ideas. The only time I have done really well was when I did something that interested me, that made me use my emotions and feelings. Your talent may lie in the one area that I lack - so good luck to you!

Answer 4

How your feeling has nothing to do if you are a weirdo or not. Are you alone, sad and hopeless because you are "different", can you identify if you are different.

Are you employed? Usually you meet folks through employment, service clubs, church etc.

It is difficult to step out sometimes and put yourself in a vulnerable position, but everyone has to do that, take a risk, in order to change whatever is going on in your life.

I hope things work out for you. Take care.

Answer 5

Wow, I thought that I was the only one like this, I know what your going thru, I'm 35 and I've been alone my entire life because of the exact thing you described, my few close friends think I'm one of the nicest, kindest, gentlemen thev'e ever met, I love people, children, animals and yet they wonder why I can't end the loneliness. If I ever do find the answer to this I will let you know so you can end the solitude also, man this rots.

Answer 6

actually...being a positive person will attract loads of people to you. no matter what you look like, people love someone who is happy. smile, help, talk, and live. people will respond. those negative feelings give off negative vibes and people pick up on it.

people love someone who will listen. ask lots of questions when you are with people and then just let them talk. really show an interest in them . write down questions you might ask before you go into a situation....memorize them, and go for it.

i was a shy kid, too. then i chose a profession that forces me to interact and learn about people to over come it. these are the things i've learned over the years and i hope it helps you!

Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

no ur not weird,and i think u really need friends hwo can understeand u and help u out,u talk about this like u have a problem but i dont see this way.that barriers can be down only if u want too and im sure u can do it.i bet u can chat with anyone......i had the same problem when i was a kid but now nobody can stop me from talking,so its not that

Answer 8

IF u dont work join an unemployed group they do great courses and u will feel worthwhile, no u r not a weirdo, join a gym or a football supporters club something ,get out there, shake urself u r stronger than this

Answer 9

You are certainly not a weirdo. You just need to meet people who you have something in common with. Friendships rarely happen over night, give yourself time to get to know people properly. Most people are shy with new people.

Answer 10

thats not weird, it's called being shy. try going out to meet new people with someone that you know that way it wont be so daunting. It's also good that you're talking to peope on sites like this because it means that you can have a conversation with somone but you dont have to be face to face with them, and also if you feel uncomfortably then you can just stop talking and it won't be as awkward as it is in real life.
hope that helped

Answer 11

No you're not weird, just human!.....
The best thing I can tell you is to just be yourself. Don't try an be what you're not. Find out what your intrest are and connect with them. then you will start feeling comfortable talking about the things you like and know about. Believe in your self. There's a woman who will find your company quite worthy to be around. And as you start accepting your self for who you are, others will start to accept you! Everyone isn't going to like you, but that's their problem not yours. You'll know who your true friends are. Man, I know the greatest person who will be the best friend ever! His name is Jesus..... Start out talking and being friends with Him and the rest will be history!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (TRUST ME!)