One of my coworkers has had some real terrible relationshiips, we currently live together she drives me car and I provide any and everything she desires. I bend over backwards for this girl like you dont know. This girl is not perfect but I have grown to like her and I have always told her I would treat her like a queen. Well her last boyfriend kicked her out on the street with nowhere to live, a friend put her up for a few days but then this friend told her time was up and she had to go. She now lives with me, I have spent quite a bit of money on her, without me asking for anything in return (sex). Well yesterday we got to talking and she says to me I hope your not hoping for any kind of relationship. This was like a dagger in the heart, I could not even respond to this comment. Now im wondering should I just cut her loose or continue being the gentleman I am and continue helping her and hope we can have a relationship despite this, or is she just playing for a sucka.
2006-10-22 04:21:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is sickening. You're a disgrace to the male gender. After all you've done for her you are now just getting around to "wondering if you should cut her loose"? You've mistook being a gentleman for being a sap. Her meter has long expired. This queen bee needs to fly away from you-pronto. Sure you can have a relationship. As long as she does all the taking and you get nothing. No wonder she has bad relationships. Who in their right mind would put up with this? A "sucka" that's who! Man, does this ever suck!
2006-10-22 05:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your co-worker really WAS playing you for a "sucka", she wouldn't have made her 'hope you're not looking for any kind of relationship' comment. She would just have just used your obvious interest in her to string you along.
By 'cutting her loose', I hope you're not saying that since your co-worker doesn't seem to want any more than a platonic relationship with you, that you're now considering asking her to move out. That would be kind of cold.
I think you need to accept the fact that your co-worker just seems to want a platonic relationship with you right now. Maybe her feelings will change into something more in the future, but you have to deal with the situation as it is right now. Right now, it sounds like you're trying to buy her affection. I think the first thing you need to do is put your wallet away. I think you also need to just try to work through the disappointment of this girl not wanting a romantic relationship with you, which is now made more difficult because she is living with you.
That said, I think you need to sit down with your friend and discuss her future housing plans. It sounds like this girl depends far too much on others for her basic needs. Whether she is doing this intentionally or not, it's difficult to say. The bottom line though, is that you are not responsible for providing her long-term housing. She needs to do that for herself. If you want her to continue living with you, hoping her feelings towards you will change, you could just be setting yourself up for more 'daggers'. And, you certainly don't want to allow yourself to just be used by her.
I would say just give it a few days to get your thoughts together, then have a talk with your friend about how to move forward with things as they are now.
2006-10-22 04:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by loveblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let her in as a friend in need. She is just being up front and honest with you. Sounds to me like she is on the level; saving you the embarrassment of trying to get with her (sex). As long as she is pulling her weight ie. working/ paying her fair share. I'd let her stay there; you never know things may happen. Friends become lovers often and it'll usually last longer cause you know her as a friend 1st; not all the goofy stuff.
Sounds like those other guys she stayed with just wanted something in return she wasn't willing to give up (sex). Stay her friend; you never know.
2006-10-22 04:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Allen L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are expecting a relationship it's time to cut her loose. She has told you how she feels and you are only going to get more hurt in the end. I'm sorry.
2006-10-22 04:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tertia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not playing you, you are playing yourself it is good that you provided her with some place to stay but that's where it ends you to are roommates and she is being very honest with you. So from now on make her pay her way just as roommates should. no more free room and board.
2006-10-22 05:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by josepa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes playing you
2006-10-22 04:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me on this one sugar, i know all about this, shes a gold digger and she doesn't like you. tell her your thoughts and maybe it is time for her to start looking for her own place. don't let her use you like this.
2006-10-22 04:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Katy x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a torch, nyte prowla
you need to look where you're going
so you don't step in it next time
2006-10-22 04:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋