Is it fair???

Question

I am 14 and I have wanted a paintball gun for as long as I can remember. Alot of kids in my school paintball. My mom won't let get a paintball gun. Sh isn't afraid of me getting hurt. She just doesn't like the idea of going out and shooting people for fun. It's not like you're shooting them because you don't like them. Is my mom being reasonable.

Answer 1

you'll shoot your eye out, but i'll help you...

you are already employing some good argumentative techniques, with these extra arguments that I've included, your mom will have that paintball gun under the tree by christmas. The following arguments are called fallacies. Lawyers use them all the time to manipulate jury's into feeling sorry for bad guys, so the paintball gun should be a breeze. Spread these out over at least 6 seperate arguments. An attack with all of these at once will be overkill and will get her too defensive.

"why do you think that paintball guns are unsafe? It says right here that paint is non-toxic"

"Jimmy fell off his bicycle and broke his leg, so are you saying bicycles are unsafe now?"

"so you're saying you dont trust me playing sports with my friends in a controlled environment?"

"paintballing is on ESPN all the time, last time I checked thats a sports channel isnt it?"

"who needs exercise? Being lonely and scrutinized by your peers should be extremely healthy in the long run"

"look I don't ask for much, if you were going to choose a time to be completely unreasonable- please dont let this be it."

"what friends? I had friends before they realized that my mom treated me like a 5 year old- besides they're all on the paintball team that I hear about in class every single day"

"since i cant get acceptance from my own mother- or my friends, I guess I'll have to find it elsewhere"

(the above statement is very powerful, use it at the end of an argument you've already lost - its food for thought, she'll think 'what did he mean by that?' let her think about it for awhile, she'll feel bad by morning)

"look, its 2006, this isnt some communist regime we live in- paintballing is a respectable sport, even a profession. How old do you think these guys getting publicity on television were when they started paintballing? Every day that passes, you're cheating me out of the positive reinforcement i need from a team sport"

"look i know kids who are smoking cigarettes at my age; why am i being made out to be the bad guy for wanting to play a legitimate sport?"

"injuries occur more frequently in baseball and football than paintballing, and that's a fact. how can you say you're being fair?"

lastly, start looking for articles talking about paintballing etiquette and rules, an article thats geared for adult paintballers, to sell her on the safety and respect they have for eachother. Intentionally turn on espn and crank up the volume of paintball competitions- but smile and act enthusiastic, dont pout.

Merry Christmas guy,

(just dont shooting that thing anywhere public)
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Answer 2

First to Petri, then my answer.

Paintball guns aren't dangerous. It's some of the morons who use them outside of the game that are dangerous. Paintball is one of the safest activites around if you follow the safety rules; and even at non-commercial fields, people who do stupid things that break safety rules are refused the privilage to play.


Your mom is being unreasonable. The problem lies in the fact that she was raised way before our time. Traditional values were emphasized to her by parents who were even more traditional than the time. To her, this kind stuff degrades society.

Anyone who plays knows that this game does not corrupt 99% of players. Besides, there are worse and more prevalent problems in society.

What I did to convince my dad was to bind him with a promise. My parents have never really trusted anything I said, so when I told my dad I would make Honor Roll that last quarter in 8th grade (I've had plenty of them beforehand), he laughed. I said, if I make Honor Roll this quarter, will you let my buy a gun? He said yes and laughed it off. Report card comes and my dad is rarely one to back off from promises, so I gave him my money and went online with him to order the gun I wanted. He hated it and told me that he wouldn't let me play very much, but eventually saw how much it made me happy and left me alone.

It takes a really open-minded parent to accept paintball. My dad has even played a few times since then (over 4 years ago) and has admitted that he enjoys it a lot.

At the very least, see if she can let you play some games, not necessarily get a gun. You need to desensitize her to it.

And beleive me, safety statistics and psycological surveys don't do crap to convince parents. It all lies in how you expose them to it.

Answer 3

Paintball guns are dangerous. Your mom is being reasonable because she's making a decision based on your safety and well-being. Be happy you have a caring mom unlike all those other parents who buy their kids everything they want regardless of how dangerous it is.
You can always buy a paintgun when you're 18, right?

Answer 4

Yes she is reasonable. Too many kids are using paint ball guns to shoot cars and houses. At close range, they can be lethal, so should be treated like any other gun

Answer 5

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Answer 6

you are still young so she kinda gets to decide things. maybe work out a deal ask if you can earn the money buy doing stuff around the house. then earn like points to go get to use it. It may sound silly but its worth a try and better then not getting one right.

Answer 7

Moms are just over protective, like all moms. Ask your Dad or other relative

Answer 8

If your a very responsible 14 year old and WEAR all the safety gear and your fellow P.ball shooter's do too, your old enough in my opinion.

Answer 9

shes a mom, they are like that, ask your dad or somebody else who will take you! In my opinion your old enough.

Answer 10

shes a mom, they are like that, ask your dad