Do you think my husband doesn't love me anymore?

Question

he has abused me in the past with shaking pushing me to the floor and hurt my hip and I couldn't lay on it for days, had his hands around my neck, now just because I gave him a bad attitude two days ago, I said sorry but he just told me not to talk to him, and said he'll never forgive me . he hasn't talked to me for 2 DAYS! and he falls asleep with his back to me ,

I think I'll sleep on the couch tonight, because last night it took me hours of crying and nerves just to fall asleep at 4a.m, I guess ill sleep better alone

yea, I know, it might be a stupid question, but I've got to ask, sorry... but thanks in advance

Answer 1

Ok Let's think about this for a minute. ( I am really not trying to be a smart mouth) You admit he abuses you. He has done things that hurt you. He makes you cry for hours on end and you have problems sleeping.
I don't think he loves you anymore. Real love does not abuse.
You need to get out of the house and the relationship before his abuse gets any worse.
I do understand you may still love him but honey he could end up killing you with his abuse.
Yes it will hurt to leave him but better emotionally hurt then permanently hurt or dead.
But in the end only you can decide how much abuse you are willing to take from him.
And by the way, his abusing you could put him in prison. The law takes a dim view of abuse including spousal abuse.

Answer 2

Sounds like he should be apologizing not you. Anyone in a marriage where one spouse pushes, hits or shakes another should be looking for help from the police or violence against women"s action groups. Putting his hands around your neck, or hurting your hip are things that do not describe a healthy marriage. Either seek counselling or move out and get a separation agreement before he turns really violent and you don't wake up some morning. Leaving such a marriage is not an act of failing but not leaving may be. To Sprinkles who answered above, Either you have a good sense of humour or you are one tough chick who doesn't know much about abuse in a relationship. But I just couldn't help but laugh when I read your answer after reading some of the previous answers.

Answer 3

I don't usually condone divorce, but if he is abusing you then I would say he has a illness and you need to leave him before you really get hurt or even killed. I have never understood people that stay in relationships when they are being abused. This doesn't make sense to me. Whether it is physical, emotional they need help. Do you have some family or a friend to stay with? Or ask him to leave? I hope he can get the help that he needs to cope with this illness and hopefully you can get a backbone and not take this abuse from him anymore. People that truly love their spouse don't do things like this. It isn't normal. He would be treating you bettter if he did love you. It is time to either pack your bags or make him leave. Please do the right thing by getting away before he really hurts you bad.

Answer 4

It doesn't really matter if he "loves" you or not...he's abused you and there is no reason for that, none ever. Divorce his sorry butt and move on with you life. Your not a piece of property and that's how he's treating you, you deserve better and to be happy.

Find a lawyer and begin the process of divorce....he'll say he's sorry and pretend to be all nice and stuff, but don't fall for it because he'll only go back to his abusive ways once you give in.

You deserve better.....Good Luck

Answer 5

Who cares if he still "loves" you? Why do you still love such an abusive person? People like him just want to put people like you down. He will probably do anything to make you think that you are nothing and you desperately need HIM. Well, you don't. It sounds like you'd sleep better alone permanently, or at least until you can find a man that treats you with respect, and not as a punching bag.

Answer 6

life is not such an easy answer my dear friend.
I would not answer in yes or no.
But my friend ...from Ur Question...Love anymore? It means he loved you... your only doubt is about its presence now?
You are in the situation, U should weigh the gravity of his Love / Hate...although it's not fair on anybody part to abuse physically but its only U who as to decide the gravity of error and the treatment meted to U.
B'cos in the past I have seen such people Who have changed for the better and are Good Husbands now....after anger management they are the best...
Nevertheless In the Hope of better Tommorrow it is not possible to give up your today.
I have given both sides of the coin...U may decide further.
But whatever U decide ....decide bravely..either majestically step out or continue with boldness and Love
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Answer 7

Hunny Hunny Hunny.... leave the man.. you do NOT deserve to ever be abused.. NO ONE does.. If he loved you at all he would not hurt you. That is NOT love. Maybe you have heard this saying..
"no man or woman are worth your tears and the one who is... won't make you cry".... You should feel his love and when there is a problem you should be able to talk about it. Personally, I feel you would be better off without him in your life.. You can find and do so much better..

Answer 8

Well, I would have been out of there the first time he tried to hurt me. No one has that right unless I allow them to hurt me-and that won't happen.

It he would try to hurt me he would end up in worse shape than me, and then I would leave him or kick him out. I would not stop until he was in jail or the hospital.

I guess you don't have any self-confidence left or you would know this. Just get the heck out of there. Call the police if he touches you again.

Answer 9

Tell ya what, me and mine often argue about little things. That happens in marriage. But never has the thought crossed my mind to assault her because her argument was stronger than mine. You are married to a gutless whimp who needs to take out his frustrations on a weaker female because he's to much a coward to face himself about his failures. Dump him before it gets worse. IT's only a matter of time. Good luck dear, be safe. Oh by the way, my grandfather used to abuse my grandmother. One night she hit his shins with a baseball bat while sleeping. He woke up screaming in complete agony and she whacked his shins again. He couldn't walk the next day and she told him "Every time you lay your hands on me you'd better kill me because if you don't you'd better never fall asleep". He stopped hitting her...........

Answer 10

WHY do you want to have heartbreak from a man who is physically abusing you? Do you hate yourself that much? Do you think this is going to change...well it might get worse? Get away from this monster before he kills you. Just pack up and leave. There are houses for abused women. do you want children with an abuser? gEt out now! Godloveya.