if i were getting married to a woman(which im not ,yet),
should i ask her how many sex partners shes had?
also should i ask her if she has any diseases??
last question,should i ask her to get tested for any diseases?
2006-10-22 04:08:29 · 10 answers · asked by forest lover 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Getting you BOTH tested for STD's is a good idea,
But you do not want to know how many partners a woman has had, you might be disappointed.
2006-10-22 04:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, ask a woman how many partners she has had. The reason for this is that if the number seems like alot to you, this will always bother you no matter what. If you truely love her now, for as she is now, realize that everything that she has ever done in the past makes her the woman that you love today. However, you should definetly ask her about any STD's she might have had. She should be mature enough to discuss this subject. If she cannot handle this discussion then she is not ready for marriage.
2006-10-22 11:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by zitterich138 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opionion and my experience, no never ask about how many sexual partners anyone has had ( is it really anyones busniess?) In this day and age though its a tricky one but maybe yes you could ask if your partner had any sexual diseases, but to be honest if your marrying this fictional future bride, I would have thought they there would be love and respect there enough that she would tell you. I think if by then you still feel like you would like her tested for any diseases, then perhaps you should discuss and then decide to both go and get yourselves checked together as a safe guard for both your futures.
2006-10-22 11:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by pixilated 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good idea to probe her for general background on sexual health.But to straight out ask her how many partners? It is not necessary. Perhaps ask if she had unprotected sex with her last partner..... If she has been with you and only you for more than 1yr then I see no need for STD tests. Unless of course you or your partner have been unfaithful. In Which case I would evaluate the whole idea of getting married in the first place.
2006-10-22 11:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by MellyK1234 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is none of your business how many men she's been with prior to you. If you dare ask her that question; don't consider yourself fit for marriage.
Secondly, it is a good idea for BOTH of you to get tested for diseases. Show support by doing the same testing. Put yourself in her shoes and walk with her on this.
NEVER isolate her or put her on the spot about this sexual past! NEVER or don't marry her at all!
2006-10-22 11:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look if you were going to get married to her youd know the answer to the disease question, most people know their partner pretty well before marriage, as for how many men, well dont ask what you dont want to know, it may upset your ego when you find she used to be the town bike....everyones had a ride.....~!
2006-10-22 11:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a good idea for BOTH of you to be tested. It's none of your business how many she's been with before you, or how many you've been with. The deal is, when you marry, you're each the LAST.
2006-10-22 20:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! As you date, get to know your future wife you will be able to answer all these questions in the process of dating and being around her. If she is sick take her to a doctor. If virginity is important to you, then her actions will tell you.
2006-10-22 11:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE WITH THE OTHER ANSWERS
BEING TESTED YES ITS A GOOD THING
ASKING ABOUT HER PAST IS NOT GOOD
KEEP THE PAST IN THE PAST IF U WANT TO START A NEW MARRAIGE
2006-10-22 11:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was engaed to u and u asked me the 1st q i would slap u in the face and throw the ring at u.
2006-10-22 11:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋