My boyfriend is white Polish, and I'm black girlfriend. My friends are black and he is the only one. When I took him to my house that my parents are feeling awkward because he is European, we have been together long time. I love his family and I learn about his culture in Poland. He is planning to take me to Poland and meet his cousin. Should I say yes or stay in America?
2006-10-22 03:59:50 · 23 answers · asked by coolygirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
If you truly love someone then what they look like or what color their skin is doesn't matter. This may sound gross but if you were to strip off the skin from you and your boyfriend you would find that basically you were the same colors inside. Its what is in the heart that counts.
2006-10-22 04:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok dear. Here it seems you're mixing stuff. One thing is he is white and the other is you going to Poland. Race mixing honestrly is great. Would be the only way to get rid of racism.
In second place you going to Poland, wow. Dont know what will you do there. Do you even speak Polish? Will you be able to work? If not, does he make enough cash for both? Think it carefully. Love is not a feeding device. If you are uncomfortable with living together with him in the US, I understand you. I am Mexican married to white French but in my country we see people, no colors. For racial matters maybe Poland would do. For work it wouldnt. Why dont you try Canada?
2006-10-22 04:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by soytokemonsr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems are a lot actually with interrcacial relationships, there is always a saying that guy wud never choose girl darker then him or bigger then him, they say its human nature to think that for men, also the idenity stops there and then cuz familys and people want to keep thier heritage and not lose it to another culture , thought it can be still there it wud be like sharing, some say its cuz people cant get der own race of partners and act desperate to find people from other cultures, its also easier to get on with ur own people, thats jst natural, so thats y people and ur family might feel awkward.
2006-10-22 05:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl. First, as a black man myself, I rarely ever see black women branch out and date white dudes, but its different because us black dudes date white, asian as well as black. It's good to mix it up sometimes. Race doesnt really matter as long as the person is kind hearted.
Don't worry if your parents seem a little uncomfortable, sometimes we are not use to having someone from another culture in our family, remember our parents came from an earlier generation where intergration and mixed relations were uncommon and usually frowned upon. Give it time, and know that they have to accept your choice as a woman, anyway. They may even see the good within him and their opinions will change :)
If it feels right, go to Poland with him. Learn his culture, broaden your mind. Who knows? You may enjoy it.
Dont mind anyone who criticises, they just ignorant.
Once again, you go girl!!!!
DarkStar
UK
2006-10-22 04:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Darkman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually,I don't think you should travel to Poland with him,because there is a strong possibility,that his Polish family will not accept you. People in Poland rarely speak English (if any at all),so you may be subjected to harsh words and mental abuse. I dought very seriously if you will find an African American person married to a Polish person out there,unless you are actually searching for them. If your family does not accept him,then I'm sure they have their reasons,and you should talk to them about it. If his family likes you,that's because they are use to the American Cultures,where Bi-racial dating is normal,just not always accepted. I hope you and him can work something out,where both families will accept you. (Good Luck)
2006-10-22 04:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with a mix race. Go to Poland, it will be a wonderful experience.
2006-10-22 04:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by keiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all. In fact, our minister told us once that until we are all coffee-colored from race mixing, we will never get rid of racism. Kinda sad commentary on the savagery of the human race.
we will not evolve further until we learn to live with all in peace. My grandkids are a great example of great race mixing. by the way 'race' is an arbitrary delineation, since only the demographers use it. We are all 'mixed'.
3 of my grandkids are Asian-American (the brightest ones), and one is Hispanic-American, delightfully beautiful. I love them all equally and am grateful that I did not raise my kids to be prejudiced to anyone but bigoted people.
2006-10-22 04:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by Alice B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, honey, because this may deter his feeling towards, you know what F everyone else it's your happiness that counts, they are not going to have live with him for the rest of there lives. You are so what you decide will effect your feature. If you let others decide your future then what future do have except their future. Go with your feelings. Whatever feels right to you.
Never do anything that will make you regret something, do things so you wont regret.
Good luck!
2006-10-22 04:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Te In Lamia contactus me placere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes..n i hope u guys have a great future ahead..get married n you both will have a really beautiful baby "half polish n half black".
Can anything else be more beautiful than a mixed race baby?
2006-10-22 04:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My good friend in grade school and high school had a black mama and a polish papa. Dad always said he had two strikes against him. You do the math.
2006-10-22 04:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋