"Sit-in Wives" are taken more for granted than "working wives" by their husband?

Question

where it applies, I know we have some really good men around but...
I am getting this feeling sit-in mums (who don't work) are taken more for granted than "working mums" by their husbands. I think because they don't contribute financially to building the families assets, men usually consiously or not, take them for granted.
I also feel that 'sit-in mums' find it HARDER to walk away from unhappy marriages than 'working mums'?
Do you agree with this or not? Why where its relevant to you.

Answer 1

Of course they are taken for granted and of course they can't walk away...that means they'd have to stand on their own two feet! Men treat women exactly how women allow them to; don't be fooled. Women control the show, and some women want to be the hurt little bird and have others "awwww and coo' over them.

Personally, I was one of those mums, and get this- I was unhappy because I couldn't stand on my own two feet. It was ALL my fault! When I finally stopped blaming my husband, and started taking account for myself, seeing all my own bad calulations of the situation and seeing my faults...the more I fixed them, the more I was HAPPY. Some (note SOME) SAHM's expect the husband to fix everything from the faucet to her nerosis and downfalls.

Answer 2

Hello Jack, It depends. Some gents depend on wives to keep things straight at home. When i say straight then mean, clean, picked up, tidy, kids had a bath, their homework is done, and dinner is fixed. Now i had a role reversal,,,,,, i worked (no kids) and my husband wanted me to support him. And he didnt do anything except play nintendo or go out to bars,,,,,,,needless 2 say that marriage lasted 4 five months; and i have not been married ever since then. But you are right, in some instances when the children are in school and are not at home then some husbands have spoken to their wives about getting a job during the day to help out financially. And a lot of the wives (that are stay at home) are afraid to go out and get a job because it has been a long time since they have been out in the work force. Some gents get paid enough to support the whole family but it is very hard to get a job that will do that now-a-days. And some struggle at times with extra help from family or help from friends. And sometimes the husband doesnt mind cause as long as there is love between he and his spouse then he is happy. I hope i have helped to answer your question. Take care.

Answer 3

I am a stay at home mom and my husband doesn't take me for granted. I also disagree that we stay at home moms find it harder to leave them. I think any woman could find it hard to walk away from a marriage regardless if she worked or not. I contribute more than money would. He makes money to pay bills, get the extras (food, clothes, toys, etc.) but I am here to make sure our children grow up with proper morals, manners, values, etc. that's something a pay check can't bring in. I am also here to clean the house spotless the way we like it, cook a healthy meal, and be there for my children any time they need it...again something a pay check can't bring in. Yes someone can be paid to clean but I've seen the out come of those situations (not clean enough), someone can cook your kids meals, but what exactly are they putting in them, see I know what goes in to my children's meals, and well we all know that no one can replace a parent when a child needs their mom or dad. So stay at home moms do a lot more than people think. Financially, I've saved a lot of money being home so I contribute to the finances. I am very happy in my marriage though but I tell ya the minute he does me wrong, I have a home I can go to until I get on my feet, he isn't going to keep me here miserable.

Answer 4

I don't think so. Well not by smart men. I have been both in my relationship. When I am working I still do all the things that I would do for my husband and son that I would do if I was staying at home. My situation is different though. My husband and I own businesses and I bring my son to work. My husband appreciates all that I do regardless of whether I am working or not. I think it helps that I go away a few times a year on business and pleasure without him and at times without our son. It is then that he sees just how much I acually do contribute to our family.

Answer 5

Stay at home moms are often taken for granted - most men don't realize how difficult it is to manage kids and a household full-time. A SAH mom's day doesn't end at 8 hours - it's a 24/7 gig and they often love most of it.
They find it harder to walk away because they know how valuable an intact family unit is and how difficult it will be for the kids to acclimate to mom having to get a job and miss out on most of their children's lives. They know what the kids will go through when flipped back and forth between two households with different rules (and exposure to dad's girlfriend-of-the moment) - their grades, self-esteem, will plummett. They will often resent the parents (one or both) and will probably have relationship/committment issues themselves one day.
Relevance to me? Because that's all you see anymore. People want instant gratification. Not feeling loved and appreciated anymore? There's always someone else to turn to - and they do without completely considering the ramifications and destruction they leave in their wake.

Answer 6

i think of usually adolescents take maximum others with none attention. that's the reason lots of youthful marriages fail. As for the complicated artwork and heroism of their husbands, many youthful men do no longer exemplify those characteristics. and quite some older different halves nag and take their husbands with none attention, merely as quite some older men do to their different halves. that may no longer an age concern, that's a adulthood and character concern. i grew to become right into a youthful spouse, my husband and that i do no longer take one yet another with none attention and we relish the complicated artwork we the two put in on a daily foundation. continually have. between the excuses our marriage lasted after many people our age broke up. We the two artwork finished time, we went to college jointly as working, we boost a baby jointly and we share the 'burdens' of daily life. Marriage isn't a burden. i'm uncertain the place you reside or what your place life is/grew to become into, however the standard kinfolk now has 2 working adults and little or no farm kit.

Answer 7

I agree with you. I'm a stay at home wife and mom of a one year old. My husband thinks he works his *** off, and that I sit at home all day and play and watch tv. This is what most of our fights are about. He doesn't appreciate what I do on a daily basis. I thin k it would be harder to walk away because by not working, I don't have an income.

Answer 8

Being taken for granted by a man has nothing to do with whether you are a working mom or a housewife. I have been on both sides and I'm still being taken for granted. Some men are just plainly immature and inconsiderate of any ones' feelings but their own. Its hard to find a man who is mature, respectful and considerate and doesn't find it a challenge when a woman is as strong as he is.

Answer 9

I agree that sit at home moms are taken for granted because are world See's money not our kids needs of having a parent at home controlling what is going on in the household.You look at kids that have no parent at home & see how those kids are compared to those who are raising theirselves.These women provide something that money can't replace & that is a clean house with diner on the table& some stability in all of their life's.

Answer 10

I'm stay at home mom .........and my husband found out what it was like when he was off work for about a month before he moved to China and coming from him he told me that there ways no way he could do what I do........ cause being a stay at home mom I home school,cook,clean,shop, do bills,travel plans,wash clothes and dishes, get the cars services,and ya I think that is about it im sure i'm missing something =) I'm sure when i'm done with all the moving thing here in US I'll able to move soon over there..........so yep I think i stay pretty busy doing alot =) a womens job is never done