My brother asked me this question and I did not really know how to answer it. Forget that crap about "well it's not legal if your not married", or "it not morally right". I want a real answer to give him.What is the difference???? He lives with his girlfriend of five years they are both very happy, have a baby, and haev a great relationship. I ask him if he thinks about marriage. He thinks that is what messes up realationships! I work with many older woman, ( I am 27 and married with 2 kids) that are always telling young girls NOT TO GET MARRIED! Why is this?? Please real answers only. Dont bother if your going to say. that legal crap, and bring religion into it!
2006-10-22 03:51:36 · 11 answers · asked by Jm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let me be more clear, Do not bring religion into it or legal signifigance.
2006-10-22 03:53:06 · update #1
well, for me, a piece of paper would not make me love my partner anymore than l already do.my love is in the heart, not on a signed document.l am commited by my word, when l say l love you, that is my word.and no paper will change that.
2006-10-22 04:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cobra 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not so much religious aspects as legality but it comes from the way we were raised. Our parents were always raised with the understanding that if a man loved a woman they got married and lived happily ever after. Live in relationships were unheard of not so long ago although they did happen, but remained in the closet like the gays and lesbians. This was in a time where the husbands worked and wives stayed home barefoot and pregnant. Then came along two income earner families in the 70s, and thus also started the decline of family values and morals. Divorces became a household word and the nastier the divorce the more public it came. So couples wised up and imstead of losing their possessions in divorce court and smearing the family name, many chose to live together out of marriage and have families out of wedlock to avoid the legal trouble of divorce if they decided to split up. That trend continues today with our younger couples as it was just shown that married couples versus live in ones dropped below 50%, but many will argue for the religious and legal aspects of this but none are more right than the fact that we are a product of our society today
2006-10-22 04:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that getting married requires more commitment from the couple. Yes, they still live together, have the same jobs, the same house. But by getting married the couple is declaring to the world that they are totally committed to each other.
I still think of living together as a temporary situation. To me it is not a committed relationship. It is saying to the world that you love this person now, but you really don't see the relationship lasting very long so why bother to get married?
2006-10-22 04:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is no difference other than a certificate. If the couple is truly committed and loves each other, etc., what's the rush on getting married? If things are working for you as an unmarried couple, why fix what's not broken?
2006-10-22 07:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by my2girls44260 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people get married? It's a handy way of acquiring "stuff" really quickly. It's a good way to relieve the bride's parents of their savings. You get to have sex with the same person for the rest of your life. Only less frequently or creatively. Plus, you can't just yell "do over". To get out of it, men and women in business suits charge you a lot of money to try and save your stuff or get some of your partner's stuff. Plus, if it doesn't work out, your children get two bedrooms and extra gifts from you and your ex spouse as sort of a rivalry slash relieving the guilt you feel type of thing. Who wouldn't want to get married?
2006-10-22 04:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jay Tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't any difference besides a piece of paper. Many people have commlaw marriages,where they live together for X amount of years,but do not actually get the certificate. If your bother loves his girlfriend and they share everything,then don't worry about it
2006-10-22 03:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people don't get married, when things get a little rough they feel its easier to bale out of the situation because they don't have to get a divorce or work hard to make it work. That is my opinion. Also owning thing together gets a little more complicated because your not married if one of you was to die the other wouldn't be recognized to receive benefits ect. (sorry not trying to bring legal stuff into it)
2006-10-22 04:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and that i did no longer stay jointly merely before marriage. We made valuable we knew one yet another nicely and could make it by way of complicated cases jointly. quite some people flow in early (interior some months) as a fashion to make certain if issues will artwork however the subject with that's they actually do no longer know one yet another nicely yet. they're living jointly to make certain if it's going to artwork yet you additionally can learn lots approximately one yet another by way of spending time jointly and not living jointly. i could pass to my husband throughout the time of the day and stay together with his parents jointly as we've been dating and engaged. I spent the day at his domicile (now our domicile) and frolicked with him yet did no longer stay there. We took time to get to renowned one yet another extremely of shifting in shortly after transforming into a pair. different persons date for some years yet prefer to hold off on getting married yet then they flow in jointly till they might get married. It makes the marriage look rather pointless different than that they sense they like that greater advantageous dedication with asserting vows. merely considering you do no longer stay jointly till now marriage does no longer propose you have greater arguments than people who do. merely via fact a pair lives jointly till now marriage does no longer propose they gained't argue and know one yet another greater effective. i think of it extremely is an assumption that quite some people stick to. i know my husband o.k. and did no longer might desire to stay with him to benefit approximately him.
2016-11-24 22:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are, at least in the US, numerous legal ramifications that vary from state to state. Health care, insurance, Wills, and children are a few of the more common concerns.
2006-10-22 04:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Commitment.
2006-10-22 03:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋