i guess i have really always been a jealous person only when it comes to relationships though. Its almost like i expect for my girlfriend to only want to talk to ME and spend time with ME. I get upset if i find out she was on the phone with another boy or even if i find out that she called another one of her friends before calling me. It could possibly be because we do go to diffrent schools nad dont get to see each other often, i dont know i just want her all to myself. I know that this isnt right but i just cant help it...its like a disorder or something. Can anybody else relate to this or have any strategies to help me get over it?
2006-10-22 03:44:11 · 9 answers · asked by Morris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That ugly green eyed monster we call jealousy has destroyed a lot of beautiful relationships! First let me compliment you on the fact that you can see what is going on within yourself and you want to fix it. That is the first Giant Step toward fixing a problem. Hard to fix a problem you can't see. So you have taken the first big step, you have identified the problem and feel it is your problem and are not trying to blame it on your girlfriend. So far you are doing excellent. Quite often jealousy isn't as much jealousy as it is a 'control issue'. Sounds like you have having serious problems wanting to control your girlfriends every move. When a person has a big control issue going on it indicates that the person is more deeply concerned about what they want that what the love of their life needs to be happy. Without trust a relationship can't grow and develop. Your need to control can eventually get out of control and cause some real serious 'anger issues.' My advice is to do some Internet research and read up on such problems and find ways to fix yourself. If that isn't successful, don't hesitate to take some counseling. Fixing this problem early on can change the course of your life on down the road. Go for it. Identify the problem, find solutions and then apply those solutions to you! You can do it and you can become the caring, considerate, loving boyfriend you want to be.
2006-10-22 03:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, jealousy comes from your own wrong doings. Meaning that you are jealous of a person because, YOU, yourself has done some thing wrong. I would get help. There is no way to have a good relationship with someone if you are this way. Believe me when I say this, she will get really tired of this before long, and then you are left with only yourself. I'm not trying to be mean, just real. You really should see someone. Good Luck!
2006-10-22 10:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it seems to be s disorder. It requires you be tested for anxiety disorders, which cover several types of disorders. Go on line and look u0p free anxiety screenings. If you take the on-line tests and find you have a disorder, read about it and how to conquer it. You have a very low self-esteem, certainly, and need her to focus on you to feel secure. A healthy person is happy with the self and knows that if one relationship doesn't work, they have lots going on in their lives which turn them on. They also know that romance is just around the corners, and many available e people are on every street .
2006-10-22 10:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS a disorder! And it's good that you recognize that this is a symptom of what could turn into an abusive relationship. I think it would benefit you to get some counseling now before you develop more symptoms that might send you to jail. You can overcome this if you want to. Do this for yourself so you can lead a wonderful life; you deserve it! Godloveya.
2006-10-22 10:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will if u dont change ur jealousy or not let it show, something has made u insecure so figure out what that is and try to fix it. it wont be easy..but it may help tone it down and/or help u control ur emotional shows
2006-10-22 10:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro, talk to someone... a counselor at school, at church, a trusting adult, wherever... talk to someone because what you're experiencing is not healthy and you want to get control of it before it gets out of hand.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-22 10:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you currently have a girlfriend, she will be really pissed off at you for airing your dirty laundry with all of the members on-line and not discussing the issues with her.
2006-10-22 10:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the EXACT way! Ive been trying to change for so long but its so hard to do!
2006-10-22 10:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply put your self in her place for a little while....and see just how limiting you are being.
2006-10-22 11:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by zee zee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋