i have to write a play for my english 101 class and i would like to know where parents stand on spanking. should you as a parent be allowed to spank your child? i would like to have answeres from people who believe that you should and those who belive that we shouldn't. we all know the difference between spanking and abuse but not everyone does.
2006-10-22 03:41:42 · 15 answers · asked by conserned mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes but never when you are angry. Calm down first and always explain why you are spanking them. When you are in trouble at work, do you not want to know why, maybe you didn't know it was rong in the first place.. Treat them with respect and they will grow up respecting you. I feel this is why the world has so much violence. The states have tried to take away so many rights from parenting. I understand in some cases it is needed. However, there are parents that are trying to raise kids to know what is right or wrong. My daughter is now 18. She is well grounded. She was spanked when she needed it and talked to each time. We gave her respect from and we get it back in return. I see kids her age getting into trouble and I see how they were raised and I question this time out theory that is so popular now. A child needs to understand what their consequences will be if they do something wrong as well as know what they did wrong. Don't get me wrong, I think the punishment should fit the crime and a spanking is not always appropriate. We have even had my daughter tell us what she felt her punishment should be. She was harder on herself than what we felt it should be. We all came to an agreement that was satisfactory to both my husband and I and my daughter.
2006-10-22 03:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ladynole 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think a parent should be able to spank their child. There is a difference in abusing a child and spanking them. I'm a black female, and i'm sure some other black people here know a lot about getting spanked coming up as a child. Black families spank their kids all the time. When me, my family and friends were growing up we got spanked with a belt. No, we never had bruises or bleeding, but the sting of it was enough to let us know that if you do something again this is what it's going to feel like. It's just passed down from generation to generation with the black families. I don't see a problem with any parent from any color background spanking their child as long as their not abusing them in the process. Kids these days are terrible. Their cursing out their parents, doing what they want to do, and just all around bad kids. The parents have no control over them, and the sad thing is some of these kids are very small. Kids need structure and believe it or not they love structure if it is given to them at a young and early age.
2006-10-22 11:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as the spanking is not bordering abuse, or goes with Verbal Abuse, I think there is nothing wrong with a little old fashioned disipline.
I am not talking about spanking for the smallest of things either, only when nothing else works out. It should be the last resort. So then the children will know there boundries.
I spanked mine when it was totally the last resort. They turned out great.
2006-10-22 10:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by tassie 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think people should be allowed to spank their kids. My parents did it to me (eons ago) and I have done it to my son. Sometimes when you have a child throwing a terrible tantum that is the only way to get their attention and show you mean business. Just don't abuse them!!!! If you don't know the difference, then you have no business doing it anyway. However, I think some of these kids these days need a good *** whooping judging the way they act. Parents should be allowed to parent in a manner that is right to them (as long as it isn't abuse!) - society tries to make you feel bad anymore for doing your god-given job. Just my opinion!!!
2006-10-22 12:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I didn't spank my kids much when the were young. A real bad spanking was 3 swats on the butt.
In Colorado you can spank but you can not but a mark on your kid.
NEVER spank when you are mad!!!!!!
This should only be used when all else has not worked. Then it should only be one swat.
After you swat the child you should give them a hug & tell them you still love them but they can not do what they did to get the swat.
2006-10-22 10:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely YES! Children of younger ages don't have the ability to reason. A spanking (not a beating) is appropriate to the behind if they need it. It's not for pain, so much, as for humility and respect. That's exactly what is wrong with kids today. No one whats to take responsibility for discipline and the "experts" tell us it's wrong. That's alot of "bulls*hit". Kids need to know their boundaries and I guarantee a good spanking when they need it will keep them out of jail in the future. Godloveya.
2006-10-22 10:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, we should be allowed to spank.
Since we stopped spanking as a society, our communities have gone to the dogs.
The happiest and safest homes I know of use spanking. The kids are respectful and not aggressive.
2006-10-22 11:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am for spanking my child...only as a last resort. Then only with a open hand on the childs bottom, and only one or two taps.
2006-10-22 10:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by R W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the bible says spare the rod and spoil the child , so yes I believe in spanking your child , but not abusing them there is a big difference
2006-10-22 10:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i believe spanking teaches a child to hit, to solve problems, positive reinforcement works for us, it is just as effective.
2006-10-22 10:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋