My wife is telling she did not feel any thing when I touch.
But I am romantic, caring, handsome person.
This is proposal marrige
She did not like to get gifts also from me.
what can I do.
Can I take her to consultant or .....
Pls give serious answers. I am very sad about this.
2006-10-22 03:41:19 · 20 answers · asked by cuteperl16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you are too soft like a bunny..and she is looking for a tiger.
2006-10-22 03:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello CutePerl1, Well the 1st thing i want to say is that i am sorry this is happening and i am also Jealous! You sound like a very thoughtful, caring and considerate gentleman. Tell her that the both of you need to sit down and have a discussion. And this is going to be the hardest thing to do (but you need to know) Ask her if she still loves you? If she says "no" then ask why, ask her if there is anything to be done to re-kindle the love that was there before. If she says "yes, i love you" Ask her in what way does she like to be touched. Tell her you want to go (window shopping, walk into stores just look around) shopping with her and have her piont out items she likes so you have an idea of what she likes. Ask her if she would like to go to an afternoon movie and then dine out. Ask her what she thinks about flowers. I do not know any woman that dislikes flowers ,,,,,,especially when they are recieved from a handsome gent. And i would also not rule out the fact that she might be having an affair and she might have fallen in love with the individual she is having an affair with. In that instance it is time to look in the yellow pages under private investigators. Ask what prices they charge for investigating a possible love affair that your wife could be having. And when you choose make sure you pay cash. Not credit card or check (if you have a joint account). Cute i do hope that she just needs to re-kindle her love. And i will pray for you that it is not something else. But at least all of this will give you a sense and peace of the mind and heart. Good luck sweetheart.
2006-10-22 11:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her WHY she doesn't like it when you touch her or dislikes receiving gifts from you.
I can understand how upset you are about this, but - sadly, for you - you can't make her love you and don't force her to come along to marriage counselling just to try and make her 'see' *you're* the one. ONLY do counselling after having asked her why she has these problems, and ONLY IF SHE AGREES.
Or, probably an even better solution, realise you and her aren't meant to be and try to find someone else (Someone else WILL come along, just not necessarily straight away).
2006-10-22 10:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by swelwynemma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend...
She may have realised this marriage wasn't a good idea for her and it seems she can't currently get out of it so she is sulking in it.
Are you sure this lady is the one for you? Consultant/counsellors can help you to communicate but not to solve your problem. Save your money and find out what is insider her heart. It may hurt you very much but the truth is better than lies.
Lol
2006-10-22 10:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry.that woman either has serious commitment problems or just DOES NOT love you. it will be very hard but let go and move on even if you work things out they will resurface and you will be back in the same boat.i think she realizes this and feels guilty taking your gifts or your a super freaky stalker guy
2006-10-22 11:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by whiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking to her first. Find out why she is not responding happily like most women would. If that doesn't work try to get her to go to a marriage counselor with you. If that also doesn't work, I'm afraid she's not the person for you and you should find someone that will appreciate you. Good luck.
2006-10-22 10:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok i no this sounds crazy but u need to try n look at other women or somethn to make her realize that there mite just b someone who really wants u so if she does want to b w u then she will let u know but if she really doesnt want to b w u u need 2 let her go i no its hard but i promise u will find some1 else n the future n it will b hard at first but u will get over it
2006-10-22 11:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be the most romantic person in the world,but you cant make her feel something she does not feel. it sounds to me that in so many words she is no longer in love with you. and I'm sorry going to counseling is also not going to make her feel something she does not feel either. i think you should just come out and ask her, if she loves you any more. if she says no then its time to walk away. why would you want to be with someone that does not love you. im sorry!!
2006-10-22 10:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do more for women than just go straight for "touching" her. It sounds like you have hurt her feelings and she has built up a wall. If you and her go to a marriage therapist, you need to listen to what she is saying and what advice the therapist gives to you also.
2006-10-22 10:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but it sounds like maybe she's just not that into you! Things happen, and minds change, and feelings disappear sometimes. Sounds like maybe it is time to cut your losses and move on. Good Luck!
2006-10-22 10:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this but it definitely sounds like she doesnt love you, and probably never will no matter what you do or say to her so its time to move on and find someone who will appreciate what you do for her. Sorry and good luck
2006-10-22 11:14:19 · answer #11 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋