should you be allowed to spank your child?

Question

i have to write a play for my english 101 class and i would like to know where parents stand on spanking. should you as a parent be allowed to spank your child? i would like to have answeres from people who believe that you should and those who belive that we shouldn't. we all know the difference between spanking and abuse but not everyone does.

Answer 1

without being rude i just want to say that when i read your question honestly, i laughed. i think it is hilarious that people have to ask if it is okay to spank your children. my answer? OF. COURSE. i am only eighteen years old and i know this. i dont have any children of my own and dont plan to for a while, but i do have a little sister and a mother who baby sits children for a living, and nothing, i repeat NOTHING, works discipline wise better than a good swat on the rear. i am taking a plunge by writing this, but for everyone who will read this and get mad, let me tell you something. i was abused when i was little. by my father. and i was also spanked by my mother when i screwed up, so yes. i know there is a line to be crossed. but think about it, when a child looks you in the eye and purposefully tells you that they wont do what you ask, do you really think sitting them down and "explaining why" they should is going to work? let me clue you in, if they didnt listen the first time you said something, they arent gonna listen now! so to answer your question, yes. spank your child. just dont beat the crap out of them.

Answer 2

We as grandparents do not have the right to hit our grandchildren or our own children for that matter. It doesn't make any difference who's house it is. A 10 month old is still a baby, but it is time to start telling him NO when he touches something and remove or distract him. You are the parent and you should set the rules for disciplining your child. Unfortuneately your father is a neanderthal and there isn't a lot you can do, except keep your son away from your dad until you can move out.

Answer 3

spanking a child when they are wrong - that's what tough love is all about. lots of people would think that's wrong but looking back at my own life i would have to agree that my mom used to spank me when i did wrong as a child cause now it make me a better off person than many people. when i left home to live abroad i've seen so many rotten kids on the streets that i've never seen it back home and it's such culture shock cause boils down at the end of the day parents don't know what's tough love all about to have the child spoilt and allow them to be like 'wild animals' on the streets.

Answer 4

i believe there is discipline for every age group. Now a toddler i would swat hand or bottom. I always talked to my kids no matter what age group. so that they can understand at there age level. that is where morals come in to play.

A five year old and up to 9 i would give time out maybe even 10 yrs old.

Some where in between you will know when to start the teenage groundings.

teenagers i ground. i try not to ground them from everything that is enjoyable unless that what they did is big unless they do something really bad like steal my car in the middle of the night. i feel the punishment should fit the crime. They have to learn just like in real life if they steal a car they are imprisoned. just think what would happen in real life situations when dealing with teenagers.

needless to say i am pleased so far with the way i have raised my kids who are now girl 15 and boy14. i also would end punishment with a hug. I told them i loved them. Ahhhhh and of course a life lesson in morals and ethics.

Hitting someone is abuse especially if it hurts. I don't recommend it. It worked for me to raise my non adhd children with consequences, love, ethics, and morals.

I think when you decide to have children there should be a plan, a constant plan of how you will raise them to be good people and it is our job as parents to watch and protect them no matter the cost.

Answer 5

Thats the whole point the differance between spanking and abuse.

To spank on the hand is acceptable. To hit anywhere else with more force is abuse

Answer 6

i don't think so. i think spanking is never an option. it instill fear and hurt into the child. and that's no way to raise a child. with fear and hurt as a way of dealing with them. i never have spanked my son. he's 17 now turning 18 and graduating. he is a healthy well adjusted person. he still says please and thank you all the time. he doesn't get into trouble and i always know where he is. either from him calling to tell me or me calling him. i don't over crowd him. but he's a good kid....or should i say man now. getting there. but this is cause i used more healthier forms of disciplining him. talking, letting him talk and voice his own opinions. giving him feeling words to use so he could learn to better identify them. other forms to when none of those worked. but i never spanked him.

Answer 7

Yes you should be allowed to spank, not abuse, your child. We have a child in our family that time out's, taking favorite toys away, and sending him to his room doesn't work. My mom ended up swatting him with a switch off a tree a couple of times and now all we have to say is "Switch" and he stops what he's doing and starts listening.

Answer 8

Depends on the situation -- what the child has done wrong -- I have spanked my children, but only as a "last resort" and only after warning them. I got spanked as a child a lot and resented it... not that it was "abuse" per se, but just that it hurt more than my butt...

Answer 9

well in my opinion, because there is such a fine line between physically punishing a child and physically abusing a child, parents shouldn't spank they're children at all, but rather work out a peaceful way to solve th problem or punish they're child by having them take a time out etc...but that's just where i stand

Answer 10

yep, I do and it keeps them in line. I dare the government to try to intervene. Abuse is never in the same ballpark as spanking so those against spanking should just drop the 'abuse' label they try to pin on spanking parents.