I'm smart, cute and i have great personality.I believe in compromise and communication,but i still can't find a good boyfriend. Everytime i get into a relationship something goes wrong, usually it's because he cheats on me or he's dishonest with me. I know how to take care of my man but the guy always seems to know how to mess it up.I think i have bad luck.Maybe i'm doing something wrong,if you think i am please tell me.
2006-10-22 03:19:17 · 11 answers · asked by LaToya T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing you need to do is stop thinking you have bad luck. If you think negative there will be negative. Trust me honey I have had my share of wrong men in my life also, but I never gave up hope that a good man for me would come along no matter how bad these guys were or how many times I had been hurt, and I have met my soulmate and we have been together 5 years. I'm also a good woman that knows how to treat her man, but I never think it's me that has the problem. You have to have that confidence within yourself at all times no matter how things look. The problem is not you, it's the guys you have picked that were wrong. It may be a blessing that things didn't work out with these guys because the man that your supposed to be with is out there. Things work out and happen for a reason, even when they hurt you to the bone inside. It's all part of your future and destiny. Never give up hope and keep positive no matter what.
2006-10-22 03:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you: there are good people and there are bad people. The problem is that we constantly keep meeting the bad ones. Im sure there are wonderful guys out there. I should know, Im one of them.
I dont know you, but what I know about in life is: nice guys finish last. Women always say they want a nice guy but the nice guy always gets overlooked and treated as the friend, while the JERK is the one women fall over themselves for, who ends up cheating on her in the end. Thats why I never understand when women say they want a nice guy, but always run after jerks because he always seems so adventurous, dangerous and wild and exciting.
Maybe that not why you're ending up in this situation, but have a good think to yourself about why you fell for those previous guys who have hurt you. Have you fallen in the trap of picking him because he seems like a 'bad boy', has a lot of money.
Maybe the problem is on a subsconcious level, maybe something about yourself that you dont realise pushes them away. I don't know. Or maybe its just a lot of guys are fools (BUT NOT ALL) and just cannot seem to control themselves.
I'm in the same situation. I can't seem to find a good girlfriend, maybe because Im really nice...No im not blowing my own trumpet, but Im a nice dude and girls never like 'NICE' when you chat to a woman in a club/bar or other social event, I see their attention lookin towards the son of ***** whose going to use and dump them.
Life is a lottery, just keep dating and dont give up. With each person you meet, you will learn to avoid them in the future. Don't worry, you'll meet a good guy. Just open your eyes and you will see they're all around you everywhere. Its just a choice whether you want to choose them or choose the bad boys.
DarkStar
UK
2006-10-22 10:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Darkman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not doing anything wrong,it's probably still not your time to have a relationship. Try to meet the guy through other pepople, like his friends, and try to be with him a lot to know more of his personality, that way you will know who he is more and more and that way you can know if he may be able to cheat on you or not.
2006-10-22 10:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Chunni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying...but look at the guys that you are getting involved with before you really get serious with them. Even though your body may think that you cannot do without them...maybe setting a higher standard will provide you with better benefits.
2006-10-22 10:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no why boys don't like you because you keep getting in relationship and boy hate that that is the problem p.s i hope you get a boyfriend.
2006-10-22 10:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by jerome w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to take as well as give because if you are too much of a giver you will get used and taken for granted.
2006-10-22 10:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys r just like that
its so hard to find a genuine person
its so so hard to keep his friendship
pls wait there must be someone who'll undertand ur true love
2006-10-22 10:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by kalai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are mostly jerks.
i don't know what else to say, except that you need to be more careful next time you like someone. i don't say be overpossesive, just make better choices so there's no need to get ur heart broken.
2006-10-22 10:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and don't try to act like anyone else. If they can't be committed to you then it was not meant to be... so get up, put a smile on your face and move on to greener pastures.
2006-10-22 10:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt the same way. He is out there...Don't lose hope!!
2006-10-22 12:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋