Ok, here's the story, I joined the US Army so I would be comfortable marrying the woman I loved and had a stable job to give her the life she deserved. I was only supposed to serve three years. Ten days after our wedding, I shipped off to boot camp, the first six months was basic training and AIT (school), right after that, I was stationed in S.Korea for a year, she couldn't come with me. So that's a year and a half down, Next I get stationed state side, eight months later, waiting for our first child to be born, I get stop lossed and have six months added to my contract due to an up comming deployment. Then we go to Iraq, obviously she can't go, I've been married to her for almost three years now, and by the time I am supposed to get out of the army I will have been in for three and a half years. Of that time I have seen my wife and now child a total of eight months. Should I re-enlist, or get out? What would you do?
2006-10-22 03:06:40 · 12 answers · asked by Slim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As a child of the military I know I hated my father being gone. It was until I was 8 before my father was home most of the time. I vowed that i would never marry into the military b/c i didn't want my children to go through what i did. I think if u can get a decent job to support ur family, then don't re-enlist. I don't know if u have a boy or girl but in that childs head they see it as u leaving them, not u working.
2006-10-22 03:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife might be ok with a re-enlistment, but you're going to miss out on your child's entire childhood... & your child is going to miss out on you (getting to know you & being close to you).
The child needs you, even if the wife doesn't.
Then, there would undoubtedly be deep regrets about it, if you don't make sure your child is nurtured by you, with fatherly love... so, for the child's sake, as well as your own, & for the betterment of your future together, don't re-enlist.
Be all that you can be... as a father.
2006-10-22 10:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife and get her opinion. you need to follow your heart. but.........over all. i would stay home with my new baby. get to know him/her. 3 years is a life time to a child. the more your gone the more distant the relationship with him/her is going to be. at least now you can make up for some lost time. what would it be like coming home when he/she is like 7 years old. missed almost half of their childhood. which is till about 18 years old. thats a lot of time gone so you could fight in a war. comprimising your child for the other almost
2006-10-22 10:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You joined the military for the wrong reasons and there is no reason why it will be any different in the future. Decide what is most important to you a military career or a family life?
2006-10-22 10:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by dot&carryone. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good MOS that you can use on the civillian side,then get out. If you are finacially stable,then get out. If not you don't have to stay active duty,you can always go reserves of national guard,then you can still get a check,but at least be with your family.Good luck on your choice.
2006-10-22 10:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about your job in the army? Do you enjoy it? Is the pay good enough to keep you in the army? How does your wife feel about the situation? Does she want you to get out?
2006-10-22 10:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you & her should handle that. You need to talk it out & weigh your options.I know how it is on my end cause my hubby just got back from Iraq & I really missed our life together & since he has been home he is not the same man.
2006-10-22 10:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to choose one thing from them; Army or Family. Its hard to decide which one you like to choose, but you are the one who has to take that decision. So go for it, & when you take that decision then live for it without any further thoughts.
2006-10-22 10:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by emmshazi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your skills and get free from the Army
2006-10-22 10:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your wife and you guys decide together and if u get out, what will u do? have a plan for after the army.
2006-10-22 10:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋