Just to find out she didn't really love me. She was in love with her X-BF. How could she do this? How can any pearson do a thing like this... Please help me!!!
2006-10-22 02:56:58 · 14 answers · asked by irishviper1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We was together six months, before Marriage. He has abused, her in the past... As has all others. So I just don't understand.
2006-10-22 12:33:41 · update #1
Bro, My heart goes out to you. Im sorry that this happened, unfortunately many women, had rather be with an abuser, if they were already abused. As 80% have been. It seems that it is easier, for them to remain in abuse then to accept Love and Caring Kindness. Bro, if you want my advice, get a DIVORCE, it is going to be hard, at first. But there is someone out there who will traet you right.... It just wasn't meant to be, that is all.
2006-10-22 12:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by tue_american 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how long after she broke up with her ex that you married her, but I bet you married her on the rebound meaning she was not totally over her ex but looking for someone to take her mind off him. This happens all the time so dont feel bad but most dont end up in marriage, though. Youre probably right in that she doesnt really truly love you, but now thats the problem here. What to do now? You need to sit down with her and figure this out. Chances are this isnt going to be good but at least you found out before you guys were really in too far to get out easily. Sure this will hurt but in time itll heal. Dont try to keep it together if she doesnt love you as it wont work and she just have affairs to get away from you. Nobodys fault here so chalk it up to experience and move on and watch out for future rebounders. Sorry I dont have a better answer here or some magical formula to make it all go away, but life isnt always fair. Good luck
2006-10-22 03:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she tell you this or are you assuming? If she did, she may be experiencing post wedding jitters or be having problems with the changes that being married brings - the role of wife feels much different than the role of girlfriend/fiance. She might feel overwhelmed. If she didn't, you may be insecure or have self-esteem/jealousy problems and need counseling to find out why you think this. You may both need counseling and should seek it before making any drastic decisions.
2006-10-22 03:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, people do this often. They are wrapped up in the moment of the wedding and being surrounded by love and adoration...and then when reality sets in the truth comes out. It's painful but hear me when I say, this will pass. It will send her back where she belongs and allow you the time and space to heal, and find someone that is in love with you and not the idea of being a wife. Hold your head up! Be glad that you found out now...no one wants to be married to someone that doesn't love them back.
2006-10-22 03:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by shimmerplanet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks. I am so sorry that any would have to go through that. I would say get an annulment and bring a law suit against her for emotional distress.
2006-10-22 03:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you, she is just not in love with you! I wish I could make your pain go away! Try and think to yourself about all the good times you two shared. It was not all a lie!!
2006-10-22 03:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks, man, my heart goes out to you. Was she just using you as a meal ticket, and her true colors came out? More details would haelp the advice givers, IMO.
2006-10-22 03:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dat MrE Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, that sucks.
She didn't do it on purpose I don't think. She had feelings for you and thought marrying you would get her out of that attraction to her ex, but it didn't. I don't think she used you on purpose but I am sure that is what it feels like.
2006-10-22 03:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she married you just to get to him its time to move on give her the walking papers but ask her for your rings back then pawn them off
2006-10-22 03:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to offer you my sympathies. What I suggest you do is force her to surrender the rings to you so you can pawn them off. Then hope one day her X-BF will do unto her as she did unto you.
2006-10-22 03:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋