Hi everyone, Im a 24 year old man who recently finished university and have been working for a year now. Im wondering why women get so put off by the fact that you still live at home and dont have your own place?
I met this girl who still lives at home with mum and dad herself, but made excuses not to see me again when she discovered I live at home too.
Why are women so shallow to dump a guy because he doesnt have his own place? Everyone knows Its not easy and cheap to find accommadation in London these days, especially when you have not worked long enough to afford rent or a house yet.
Why in the western world is there so much pressure on men to move out just to please women and look as if you're so rich. Why cant women accept you for who you are instead and date because they want to date you?
I'd understand if the man was 30 years old, employed and still lived with mummy and daddy. But Im 24 and from age of 20 all my mates rushed to rent flats.
Confused..
2006-10-22 02:55:41 · 20 answers · asked by Darkman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you Emma C, Jemma B, Scary Mary and Sutter-Cane for your answers. Im feeling much better now.
2006-10-22 03:13:40 · update #1
I agree..you need to keep your feet on the ground, if you still live with your parents, So what? You sound like a bloke who's got his head firmly on his shoulders...you want to get a career first, like you say, it's not cheap to rent, get some savings behind you first, and believe me , you will meet the right woman who sees beyond this factor!
2006-10-22 03:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I haven't read any of the other answers but gather from your "thank you" that you've already had several decent ones!
Girls/women who are put off you because you still live at home are indeed very shallow. I think unfortunately you've just had a bad experience with your last girlfriend. I'm sure there are lots of girls out there who would be only too happy to get to know you - regardless of where or who you live with.
Plus anyone with any sort of intellegence would know and agree with what you said about housing - particularly in London. You are being far more sensible to establish yourself in work and then see how and where you can get your own place. Don't let shallow people rush you into moving out of your home either - living on your own isn't all it's cracked up to be. It can be extremely lonely, even if you have loads of good friends!
Good luck!
2006-10-22 04:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she doesn't like her situation and wanted you as a way out but nothing more - good riddance to bad rubbish, I think you had a lucky escape. Some women are materialistic money grabbing self centred morons but not all of us. My hubby didn't have his own place when I met him, didn't bother me. The fact you live in London and have just finished Uni is a very sound reason for still living at home, why on earth wouldn't you? There will always be females who's interest in you goes no further than the size of your wallet, however there will also be the nice ones and the one meant for you. Just keep looking and in the mean time just have fun.
2006-10-22 03:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by weatherwax1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry yourself with this because it doesn't mean a thing. You know the reason why your still at home right now, and if a girl your going out with can't accept that then she's not worth your time or love anyway. I can see if a guy like you is getting out of college and is trying to get on his feet from there. People have different circumstances, and you don't have to explain yourself to anybody. If they can't accept it then tough on them. To them it seems like you have no responsibilty and their won't be any privacy, but you have to do what you have to do right now. As long as your not living with your mom and dad 5 and 10 years down the road then your ok. She wasn't worth it anyway.
2006-10-22 04:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my wife we both lived with our Mums and Dads and I was a couple of years older than you, do not worry too much.
It does of course also free up your cash for taking the right girl out for dinner (not somewhere with laminated menus! LOL) young ladies do really prefer that to a packet of cheese and onion crisps and half a lager at your local theme pub!
I have heard that (sub-consciously) women are judging your ability to provide for a family i.e. animal instincts.
It could of course just be that she is a gold-digging shallow b*****queen with double standards.
The fact that you are concerned enough about this shows that you are a nice guy and that is more important than your own gaff.
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2016-10-02 13:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 24, I dont think you are a loser for staying home with parents. Save your money. No women really want a man with a high debt. but it may come to the point where they believe that you will never try to get out of the house. They might also believe that you will want to live off of them. Men who live on their own just seem more in control of their lives. but unless you acted like you wanted to live off of these women, I dont think its fair that they would not want to continue a relationship with you.
2006-10-22 03:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by DancinDeeva 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A few years ago the first time buyer could get a decent home for around 60k, now you would have to pay about 3 times that, for the same house; the majority of wages have not increased in-line with the house market.
some girls just want it easy, and some easy girls just want it....
go get a girl who ain't a money grabbing hoe...
2006-10-22 03:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think they do. when i met my partner he was 29 and still living at home. Reasons being - he traveled and couldnt afforda place on his own. that was two years ago and we now own a house. saying that it was probably okay because i had my own place, but no, not put of in the slightest.
2006-10-22 06:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by shonkamur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shallow gold diggers sweetheart, you'll meet them in all walks of life. I am so glad that I am not like that - probably accounts for why I'm h-a-p-p-y.
I'd far rather have intelligence on my side than be a materialistic bore.
2006-10-22 04:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋