It makes me feel like his love is conditional. If he gets what he wants he loves me to death, if not, then well he just isn't as happy.
2006-10-22 02:47:47 · 20 answers · asked by Christy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Is he cheating on me" will be your next question dear...I think that you need to talk to him, instead of holding out. If you are having a negative vibe, then it'll forever be a turn off....It is a good thing that he desire you, so don't try to fix something that's not broken.
2006-10-22 02:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you turned him down a lot or it seems that he is the only one to initiate sex then his pouting would be understandable. He may feel like you aren't attracted to him. If it's an occasional thing then he needs to suck it up and be more compassionate about your needs. My husband and I still go at it like newlyweds but there are times, very far and few between when one of us is too tired or something and has to say no. In these cases there is no pouting and we usually make up for it the next day.
2006-10-22 06:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men are led to believe - gasp! - that sex will be 24/7/365 at the drop of a hat once they get married. I wonder who tells them that? Hmmmm.
Anyway, when the bucket of ice water hits them they they can't have sex on demand, it's a real stunner.
Nevertheless, pouting is about as childish as it gets. How old is this kid? 7? You married a 7 year old?
Tell him about your schedule and your need to be romanced and seduced. Work out a couple of nights a week where things work for both of you. Throw in a quickie when you can, make him give you as many org*sms as you give him, and things should start working out. But in no way should you reward that idiotic behavior with sex. Tell him you want to work with him but on a grown-up level and he can shove that whining pouting egg right back up the chicken.
2006-10-22 03:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man like that! He thinks that in the morning just because it naturally gets hard that I am supposed to just be ready to go (Romantic, NOT!). So then he pouts all day! Then when the evening comes he drinks beer and could not get it up if he tryed! Great sex Life!
2006-10-22 03:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are married to a big baby and so you treat his behavior like you would a child. Ignore it. Don't let it make you give in. Your happiness should be his main goal when it comes to sex and visa versa. But...if you withhold just to 'get back at him', that's immature also. At this point, his love is "conditional"; he's selfish. Ignore him and when he doesn't get a response, he'll be confused. The "trick" didn't work. Then in a week or so, you can sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him his behavior will not make you change your mind and also give him a copy of this question. Godloveya.
2006-10-22 02:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know many men that pout. The question I have is how often you have sex- If you tell me once a month or less, I guess he feels pouting is better than breaking up a marriage by finding sex elswhere
2006-10-22 02:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind... I am a man..
Men are not as complicated as women emotionally. Men tend to equate things to ON or OFF. Women, however, are more like dimmer switches. Their emotions and passion can build all day long or just kind of sit somewhere in the middle...
Men rarely know how to make a woman feel the way they want to feel all day long... not just at bed-time.
So men pout, get upset etc...
You might want to turn the tables. Seduce him at different times, give him flowers, and tell him how much you love him. Also tell him you want to be seduce by him as well.... all day long.... and when he does... make it a night to remember... he might be more apt to repeat the all day seduction if he knows what it leads to.
Good Luck....
2006-10-22 03:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So I guess "first" is saying that must be the way to go, a man doesn't get sex from his wife, so he must cheat!1 That's nice. I think a man is quite immature if he can't handle an occasional night without sex. Now if it is a constant thing that is a different story. I believe that a loving, considerate, caring husband can respect his wife enough to understand that she is simply not in the mood.
2006-10-22 02:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by eyew@nnacoolnick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is where the couple has to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk about what is going on. You probably have very good reason to decline on the sex, but you need to sensitively and positively communicate that. Try to remember too, that his reason for desiring sex is probably every bit as good. Once in awhile you need to compromise with your husband. Even if he wins once in awhile, good sex has kept many a relationship alive and well. No losers!
2006-10-22 04:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was like that, We sat down and talked about it and I told him how it made me feel. Then he expressed his feelings to me. And from hearing his side of the story it made me understand and he understood where I was coming from. You can say we compromize for each other, I give in now alot more and he respects my space and feelings a bit more. Just a little you know how men are.
2006-10-22 03:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are spoiled when it comes to sex. do what i do.give it to him to shut him up so you can get some sleep . it does take a little acting but everyone wins in the long run.just for the record ive been married 4 9yrs i think that this is a tried and true method
2006-10-22 03:33:33 · answer #11 · answered by whiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋