SERIOUS and THOUGHTFUL replies PLEASE, what makes one GAY or LESBIAN?

Question

I know there are forces at work in Reality, that we understand as
the MASCULINE and FEMININE.
Our spirit is made of both these aspects. And humans struggle
to find this balance within them.
I know we are made of body, mind, and spirit. It is said the
first humans were hermaphrodite. Today, there are still
humans born with male and female genitalia. So one might have a body chemistry that leans toward gay or lesbian.
Also, there is not only the struggle within to maintain the
masculine and feminine forces. But it is said we live more than
once. And a spirit can live many lives as a female, and then
still feel as if it's a female, though now being male. And vice
versa!
I wonder though, if there isn't also a mind dimension at work.
In that one can be hurt badly by the opposite sex. And still want
to enjoy thier sexuality, and turn thier own.
What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

From knowing people, reading and forming my own philosophies , I truly believe it is not a matter of choice. You are born with your orientation regarding sexual preference in place.

Answer 2

I can't answer as a Lesbian because I am a bisexual woman. However I believe I have some insight and observations that might be of interest.

I consider bisexuality as the basic sexuality of all humans. However many factors, some you mention, some that are natural chemical reactions to certain stimulators, and some are sociological.

In simple words, what happens in my body is that I am attracted to a certain type of person, and whatever genatalia goes along with it. I have been sexually aware of this since childhood, and practicing since puberty. I seem to have exactly the same sexual response to either gender. I am culturally female identified, meaning I naturally prefer the company of women and the community of women. I had been married long term to a man, who is a transvestite who can pass easily for a woman. After many years of failed relationships with more "feminine" identified men, I managed to find my soulmate, a woman who is also bisexual.

I've never been harmed by a man, nor do I hate men, actually I love them with the same affection I have for my pets. However its obvious to me that I prefer the company of men who are comfortable with their masculinity and don't feel they have anything to prove.

Funny you should mention past lives, because I have several past life recollections, and have explored this area quite a bit in my life. Two of my most vivid past lives are of homosexual men.

I believe our sexuality is a whole lot more complicated and complex than we in modern times care to take the time to understand. As a 53 year old woman, I can see things from a much broader view than even when I was my daughters ages. I beieve we do have the ability to respond to all genders but for some, chemically its heavier on the male or the female, and culturally there is no sexual consideration of the other. Most homosexuals will tell you that they have no attraction to the opposite gender, and I believe that to be true, like most heterosexuals will tell you that they have no attraction to the same gender. However I believe the other part of that is cultural, if you don't get the opportunity to explore your whole sexuality in a safe and supportive envirionment, then you won't, or you won't admit it.

Answer 3

genetics, pure and simple. sure, there are lots of alleged "reasons" that the homophobes or those that are simply naive like to spout off...but, just by my experience and the experiences of all the gay/lesbian people I know and have met....99% of those "reasons" do not apply.
I was born to straight parents. there is no one else to my knowledge in my family that is gay/lesbian. I was not abused/molested/or raped at any time in my life. I was never in a "bad" relationship with a man (I've never had a relationship with a man). I don't hate men. I never met anyone gay/lesbian until long after I realized that I was. I just always have been.

Answer 4

That's deep. Here's the simple answer... genetics. Sure a bad relationship can make one want to explore the other side. But most homosexuals have just always been attracted to the same sex. Homosexuals get hurt in relationships also. But I have yet to see one turn straight after coming out of a series of bad relationships.

Answer 5

What makes one gay or lesbian is personal choice. The first humans were male and female, made by God. He gave us free will, and He wants us to choose His way, but we are not puppets.
Make no mistake, the Bible is clear, homosexuality is a sin. I believe it is a temptation some people have, but the Bible also says we are never tempted beyond what we can bear, and God provides a way out.
We only live once in this life, there is no reincarnation. After death, there is life with or without God. Again, based on our choice of accepting Jesus Christ as our Savior or not. The sin mentioned above is only one. We are all sinners, and that separates us from God. He cannot be around sin. Asking Jesus to save us from our sins (hence being our savior) is the only way to God. There are people who lived the homosexual lifestyle and were saved from it by Jesus.

Answer 6

Well yes one may be born gay/lesbian for one reason or the other. One may be conditioned to be that way or One may be just horney. But by the age of 14 one should understand that it takes a Mother and Father to produce a Family and by 18 should be willing to start thinking about 100 years from now or even thousands of years from now and what sacrifices are needed to be made now in order to have a lasting future that stretches far beyond ones on desire.

Answer 7

There is no definitive answer to your question. There is no chromosome that designates being gay or lesbian. It is a conscious choice based on the mindset and feelings of the individual. Maybe your past life drives it, maybe (insert you deity here) has pre-programed you. The point is who cares. We are all people with feelings and it shouldn't matter.

Answer 8

I think you are correct. Sometimes if highly sensitive females lean a bit that way and then have bad experiences with guys, even if they had bad ones with gals too, they'll take it more personally about the guys coz they're naturally supposed to be with guys. Same as with highly sensitive males.

Answer 9

I've heard of women turning to women when they've been hurt by men, but that doesnt mean they stay with woman......I believe a true homosexual is born that way........In my case, I was 5 when I had my first same sex crush.........so how could I have been so hurt by the opposite sex?? At that point in my young life I had it all.........and a great Dad who loved me! In my opinion that philosophy just doesnt fly......

D~~

Answer 10

I think that for the vast majority of gays and lesbians, their sexual orientation is set by birth. I think it's the result of genetics and hormonal influences in the womb.

As for environmental factors, I've heard of far more gay men who were boys and had negative sexual experiences with older men than with women, so I don't think many gay men turn to other men for intimacy as a result of bad experiences with women. I have heard the theory that childhood sexual abuse by men can result in homosexual feelings in boys (as Mark Foley has suggested happened with him), but I don't believe it.

I think it's more common for women to get turned off by abusive men and turn to other women for intimacy, but I'd consider them to be situationally gay, rather than actually having a gay sexual orientation