When me and my boyfriend split 3mths ago he was begging to get back and was calling my friends telling then I was the one for him..ect. He was hurt and angry with me for not wanting to get back... now three months later we are friends and I want to get back and he wont talk to me, says talking to me f*cks his head up, and has been seeing a new girl for 1wk... I just dont understand if your that in-love with someone can that feeling really fade after only 3mths??? Is it possible to mental blobk out your love for someone? Is there anything I can do to get him back, Ive been calling and texting him but im going to stop... think i need to?!!! I now you are all going to tell me to move on, I know that myself but I just wanna know if there is anything that could win him back at least then when I do more on I can at least in my mind be satisfied that I tried and not think "i wish I do this and that" u'no!!
2006-10-22 01:42:26 · 9 answers · asked by M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The way he is being at mo is that he wants to hurt me, in a way he wants me to feel the pain he felt???
2006-10-22 01:43:05 · update #1
you dumped him,hurt him,he tried to get back with you,then 3 months down the line you want him back,lmao grow up he has moved on.
2006-10-22 01:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you've really hurt this guy, and now he feels its best to move on (he may still love you though). You've messed his head up which is why he can't talk to you, for fear of him getting messed up and hurt again! It is possible to mentally block out love for someone (and help it fade away quicker) but you can't just completely get rid of it that quickly, the best way is to find someone else to focus feelings on (which is what he's doing with his new girl)!
I'll say good luck to you, because you're going to need it! Just don't appear so desperate, you might really scare him off!
I've found that a lot of girls like you just can't make their minds up if they want to stick with someone till after they have dumped their fella (i know all this from experience!), trouble is, us guys are a lot more sensitive than you realise!
2006-10-22 04:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by homiepr8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't stop from letting him know that you realized that you still love him. Ask for his forgiveness if ever there is a chance for you to talk to him personally. Tell him that you realized that you hurt him all those times he begged you to take him back which you did not heed before.
I don't think that he doesn't love you anymore because if he truly loves you, even time cannot take that love out from his heart. May be, he was just hurt badly by your rejection then that he wanted you to get hurt too not to make even with you but just to make you realize how hurting it was to be rejected by the one you truly love.
Don't worry. Just give him time to think things over about you and him. I'm sure that if it is you he truly loves, he will exit from that woman's life gracefully and go back to your arms. All the best.
2006-10-22 01:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a 4 year realationship with the girl i loved she left me hurt and still wanting to be friends i found it really hard even tho she didn't talk 2 me for about 6 months to a year after the split it still hurts to talk 2 her even 2 years later i find it hard an upsetting. she left me with no way of getting back she that sort of person once its over its over no going back. i wish she wasn't but she so determind not to get back. i finally moved on tring to 4get the past i still dont want to talk 2 her cuz i know it will hurt but life must go on n the past remains the past nofing you can do will change it no matter what. just have to put it behind u as experince and look to the future.
i recommend just leaving it dont' text, phone etc just carry on with life and try to be happy, if he really loves you still he will come crying back.
yea maybe he wants to hurt u like the pain he went tho like revenge but u cant do more then say sorry an mean it, show him u really love him n u want him if that not enuff then he askin 2 much.
u told him ur feelings u want him back u love him etc u mean it whateva now just leave the ball in his court is u no wat i mean.
also u might want to consider he been hurt and he just finally trying to get over it and started a new realationship he going to feel torn an presureized between u and his new partner, if he a true nice gentleman he will feel bad 4 hurting both girls feelings he wont no what to do but if he real does love u then he will return to the rightfull owner lol :P he might just be on the rebound so dont get me wrong but he should be putting past behind him and lookin 2 future.
hope my essay helps, sorree i write 2 much just writing how i think i will feel in that situation
2006-10-22 02:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there dun this you have hurt him and he was and iz the sort of bloke who did not care much to start with ether way you need to move on this wont work but dont think about it be happy let this shine and you will meet mr right ,, dont look for happyness look for contentment,,, bye
2006-10-22 01:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by DAVID M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might need more time to cool off. Emotional scars sometimes never go away, and he may not be able to forgive you just yet. For now, just be his friend and eventually he might come around. I doubt he's lost feelings for you, but you can't pressure him, it might run him off even further...
2006-10-22 01:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that he's trying to hurt you by messing you around about the way you have him..........can't say I blame him really
2006-10-22 02:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by cheekimadam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
set him free,.. don't show him your hurt.. you have to do things to occupy yourself so you don't mope around - easy for me to say, but I was in the exact same boat! and he couldn't believe I was happy etc.. and wanted me back..
Reason he doesn't want you, is cos you appear too needy!
2006-10-22 01:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by happy soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he has REALLY moved on.
send an anonymous gift- a box of cowdung to him this christmas and then you move on, too.
2006-10-22 02:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋