my bf tryed to turn me on but sometimes i dont feel like im turned on at all or much,i dont tell my bf that cause i dont wont to upset him.i dont get why like im looseing wonting sex with my bf .me and my bf have sex every saturday sometimes 1 or 2 times that day but normaly a few hours apart.we have tryed diffrent positions but my bf to tall for some.he like 6 ft tall and im 5 ft 3 only.
we normaly do him on top or me but we have also done on our side,from behind and on a chair.oh and also used handcuffs.me and my bf have been dateing nearly one year and were 17 but 18 soon.why am i not getting turnt on so much and how can we make sex better.oh and iv never told him so should i tell him that im not getting so turnt on.
2006-10-22 01:21:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Maybe you'll get more turnED on if you went and learned how to speak and write English.
2006-10-22 01:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by TonyB 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a normal girl. Not all women are ready for sex when their bf's are. Also always doing it on Saturday makes you sound like an old married couple. You need to break the schedule thing and only have sex when BOTH of you want it. I don't think it has anything to do with positions, but it is possible that your bf just doesn't do it for you. That happens from time to time too
2006-10-22 08:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual desire ebbs and flows for all of us, especialy when we are in the midst of a long term relationship. Sonetimes I look at my husband and think that I married the most amazing sex machine that God has ever made for women, and, since we have no children ans are self employed, i persuade him (never a big job) to go at it all night long, using sex books as references for different positions when different parts get sore and need a rest. Other times, I feel like Brsd Pitt could approach me, naked and glistening with chocolate flavored love-oil, and I would yawn and suggest a game of Scrabble.
Sexual desire comes from a variety of things. Where you are in your menstrual cycle could make you a sex fiend or make you feel like joining the nearest convent and spend the rest of your life knitting socks for orphans. Being stressed out about things, like being stressed out about your changes in sexual desire, can kill sexual desire quicker than having your grandparents walk in on you while you are doing the wild thing.
I do 1 of 2 things when my husband wants to make love and i would rather, well, do anything BUT make love. The first is that I try to grt in the mood, by letting him kiss my neck or ( fill in your own personal turn on). It is rare that you and your lover are always going to be on the same page regarding how turned on you are...Sometimes a little encouragement is all you need to reconnect with your inner love-goddess.
But, then there will be times that nothing at all makes you want to have intercourse. You could be feeling ill, coming up on a bad period, be worried about work or school, or just be in the mood to cuddle on the couch and watch "South Park." It sounds like you and your boyfriend have been together for awhile and have a well established, loving relationship. Men are not the sex-crazed dawgs we joke about them being. People who love each other understand that if one of the 2 is just not in the mood, that doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with the relationship. Make some popcorn, cuddle on the couch, laugh together, and who knows? You may be thumping like bunnies before you know it. If not, tomorrow is another day.
If your lack of desire lasts more than a couple of weeks, a kindly gynocologist should be consulted.
In closing, I do not want to be big bossy sister to the world, but do those of you who souldonly criticize spelling and grammer issues really think that they were any help? I have noticed spell check is being a little cranky, and besides, this is a relationship forum, not 8th grade English class
2006-10-22 09:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by motown_annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try role playing, different places?? You are still very young it could be that you might have to explore out there or take a break and be seperate for a little bit , i know that might hurt your b/f feelings but i think that it would be better to tell him now then way later down the road .Communications is vital in relationships
2006-10-22 08:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should tell him. I agree with the 'old married-couple' that Bunny said earlier. It's completely normal to be not-tuned-on every once in a while. But just to be sure; think about what you feel for him, besides sex. Is he still the one you want to be with??
2006-10-22 09:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Iris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how can he try other ways off turning you on
because at the moment with you not telling him he thinks he is turning you on!!
You need to tell him
good luck!!
2006-10-22 08:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by cottencandy2391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a word with him, it could just be that you are not sexually compatible in which case you will have to sit down and consider if you both still want to remain in this relationship.
2006-10-22 08:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get hooked on phonics, then tell him so he can do something about it.
2006-10-22 08:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by winksnoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sake, use spell check!!!
2006-10-22 08:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i don't pretend that i'm a great speller but thats appaling to read.
tell him.
2006-10-22 12:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by QueenB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋