2006-10-22 01:10:36 · 11 answers · asked by 2-bossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well you allow yourself a little while to morn for your past life then you pick yourself up and start again. learn from the lessons of the past but never revisit it. Move onwards and upwards. During your time of morning you can go to see someone like a counsellor or a support group. But recover in your own time then move on. Try doing stuff for the community that is a good way of getting out of yourself and give something back at the same time do what you are happy with and as much time as you can spend. you will then be helping others in similar situations recover and get out of their life and shell. How rewarding would that be?
2006-10-22 01:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You begin by picking up all of the pieces. What is left and move forward from there. And how do you loose self, you cannot. You are still here, I have always lived by this " As long as God has blessed me with another day, I have a chance to make it better" It doesn't matter what you have done in life, we all make mistakes, so figure out what got you to this point, and do better. Begin with yourself, make a effort to be the best you can be, then go back and apologize to those you have injured or hurt, whether they accept the apology is not your responsibility, just that you made the effort. And then everything will begin to fall into place. But you must put forth the effort and stop beating yourself up. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-22 08:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pick up what pieces there are left and you get some duct tape....you'll be surprised to find that there is something left, and that is yourself.. You reinvent who you are now, Whatever has happened are your experiences, and your experiences are the raw materials out of which you can shape your new life, what you do with them is up to you but you can either survive or not. Since your posting questons then you have already made a choice of survival, now take what hasn't killed you, let it make you stronger and become the person you always wanted to be. The pain we can not make disappear but the past will always stay the past and your future, your present is what you choose to make of it. Blessed be and stay strong, YOU are worth it!
2006-10-22 08:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a hard and long process but you need to go and do some soul searching. you are never alone and always have someone to talk to. dont give up on meeting your personal goals. it must be really hard right now but you really need to focus whats in front of you. it sounds like a new begining around the corner for new things but it doesnt take away the fact your a good dad and you'l be there for them no matter what. keep focussed on the real things. you WILL get a new job and you WILL meet another partner. and you WILL make new friends. never say never. be positive all the way. we do care.
2006-10-22 08:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy, but once you've hit your all time low, which it might seem like to you at the moment, You just go. Don't pick up any pieces, back track, worry about the past, just go. Pretend the slate is wiped clean, and like your 18 and just moved out of the parents house. It won't be easy, but you can do it. just be patient...that's the most important part. Good luck. i've been there twice, but I was set up the first time.
2006-10-22 08:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started by picking myself up. I looked in the mirror one day and realized I didn't like what I saw. I got back in church and asked God to help me. I went to shrinks and took anti-depressants, but I realized, it was only me and God that would see me out of my situation. As for friends, I realized I didn't have any, especially when I lost my income. I am not complete with myself as of yet, but I am a lot happier and content with my current life. I go to church and work and stay to myself. I learned to mingle with myself in order to understand what purpose I serve. You have to start feeling good about yourself. Whatever mistakes you have made to get you to the point in life that you are at now doesn't mean you are a bad person. We all make bad choices, we must learn to deal with those choices because we can't erase them. Once you accept the fact that you made bad choices, decide what you really want to do positive and do it. Set goals for yourself - start out with something small so you don't disappoint yourself. Take baby steps and always believe in yourself. HANG IN THERE - believe me things will get easier - but only if you try.
2006-10-22 08:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
accept and find a new life --- it takes time to regain your confidence but you can do it --- im still a work in progress but i have found the love of my life so now the rest will follow on
2006-10-22 08:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think positive.....just remember, everything happens with a purpose!!! try to make friends in your area.....or make friends here....in other words...busy yourself....focus on things that you like to do...and move on....time is the best healer!!!!
2006-10-22 08:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Adele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get out there,now adays there is so many support groups and on line there are ways of meeting new people
2006-10-22 08:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by hazel2nuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont panic, make a plan, start to dress more perfect, and start to act!
2006-10-22 08:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by tami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋