I am divorced for sex months and my ex has the full custady.I just see my 10 years old daughter on saturdays for few hours.She seems she is pulling herself away from me.usually she leaves her mobile off, time to time cancelling the date we have but when she is with me, she is loving me but she never says I missed you or showing me how she feels.Her Dad had a girl friend for two months that just few days ago she left the town which my daughter misses her even more than me when I left.The maid comes after few days to take care of home and her.I don't know how should I behave when I see my daughter does not feel like going out with me or talking to me?How can I stay in her life when my hand is too short for doing anything.All the kids behave like that in this age or she is weired?I know that during last 6 months, a lot of people came to her life temporary and gone.Her grandma for few months then she left.The girl friend left.Her pet kicked out while she was out of town.how can I help her?
2006-10-22 00:35:46 · 9 answers · asked by Mermaidb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's not much more you can do than just go see her and LOVE her. Tell her you will always be there for here and support her.
Now for you I suggest you Pray whatever is on your heart. Prayer is VERY Powerful!
Find a Christian church close to you and go and ask for prayer. You see satan wants to destroy us and our children.
You need to be in a group of believers. The prayers of believers avail much.
Also join a Bible Study...Reading the Bible, you start learning about who Jesus is and all His wonderful promises to His children(us)(whoever follows Him).
Get "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omarian. Very good. You need Faith girl and all will be fine. Your life will never be the same once you accept Jesus in your heart. My life changed all for the better. I'm living testimony.
Show love to your daughter.
1Peter4:8
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
Speak Words of Life to your daughter. Positive and happy things.Nothing negative about her father at all. If you don't have anything good to say, don't say it at all then.
Here's another verse for you.
Jer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
His Word never returns void. Here's another verse for you.
Phil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;
Christ's Blessings to you and your daughter!
2006-10-22 01:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could ask your ex to spend more time with her. Clearly there is something going on with her. In a way you did leave her and left her with her dad even though that might not be the situation that is the way she is viewing it. She is starting to feel that everyone she loves is leaving her. Give her time but let her know that she will always have you. Good luck
2006-10-22 01:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and really talk to your daughter by asking her if.... she has questions that she wants to ask but is afraid to ask.....show through your love and actions that what happen had nothing to do with her....and if she is not ready to talk tell her it is OK ...whenever she is ready you are willing to answer any or all the questions she might have.... On the Saturdays that you spent with her make it a joy filled quality time for the both of you ...... do not press her with questions......validate her and what's happening in her life with love and support.... and soon she'll let down the walls....... Be patient with her and yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-22 00:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 00:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by rentschler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gata find somthing she likes maybe McDonalds maybe window shoping. maybe rollerskating what ever it maybe go too her level and try too meet here there.. dont try too buy her affection with gifts she'll see right threw it .. And if she pushes you away when you do something you know she likes, just tell her the truth I AM TRYIN than ask her what she wants too do just having an open ear too listen too her and every thing that she does will make you her best friend
2006-10-22 01:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got custody of my 3 yr old. she did sorta the same thing with her mother all along. now she is married has a daughter and is best of friends with her real mother and step mother...hang in there
2006-10-22 01:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by jabbernaut_1955 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her and be consistent if you make a date keep it.. she is hurting right now just give her time and a Lil space
2006-10-22 01:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her. Be patient. She needs you.
2006-10-22 00:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you leave as well.
2006-10-22 00:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋