How do I not attract female gold diggers?

Question

Since getting divorced a few years ago, I have been blessed with my net worth increasing significantly. All attributable to a tripling of house prices, conservative spender, great paying job, etc.

Many male friends say I am an insane catch for any woman. Money, security, good looks and personality. Therein lies the problem. Whenever I date and no matter how much I downplay my good fortune, women seem to immediately smell money, opportunity and want to shack up.

It scares the creepers out of me! How do I not attract golddiggers?

anyway how do they immediately smell money unless you flaunt the fact that you are wealthy?

I don't define myself through money nor flaunt anything but do live in a nice home and drive a nice car. They just seem to smell it and ask direct questions

Answer 1

Perhaps you are subconsciously sabatoging your relationships and finding faults in these women that just are not there. I don't think it is out of line for a woman to ask about a date's financial details. A woman could be asking questions to see if you are financially responsible or drowning in debt. Meanwhile all you see is dollar signs flashing in her eyes. I come from and have my own money. When I was dating it was a requirement that my partner must have their finances in order. This is just because I didn't want to marry someone that would put me in the poorhouse and not because I wanted their money.

Also how old are these women that you are dating? An older women is more into the long term and likely thinking marriage in her future. So they may appear that they want to "shack up". Is it possible that after a divorce that these are not your ideals and you have commitment issues?

Answer 2

Not all women are gold diggers,I am glad you have been blessed and this will just add to a wonderful life for you,when you truely find that woman that looks you in the eye and loves you for you and not what you have,you will know it,she wont care if there is a million in your pocket or just one dollar.True love does not have a price tag so do be very careful,there are genuine women out there,I for one am a woman that no matter how much money a man had,if I dont connect with his heart then there would be no chance,look deep,the eyes are the window to the soul,and truely a genuine true heart does await you

Answer 3

Women practise hypergamy, they occasionally date equal, very rarely date down and mainly date up, so most women are gold diggers to one degree or another. These guys here are just pissed because they don't have enough to attract a woman yet or because they've been dumped for someone that has more than them, been scammed by women or just know how it is with women. Ask any man whos been through a divorce if women are gold diggers, my lawyer friend says they come to him trying to take everything.

Answer 4

When you are out on the prowl start dressing down. Don't wear the $5000 watches, get a timex. Buy a used car like a Nissan Sentra or a Malibu with some dents and dings. When you ask a woman out and she accepts show up in the used car and watch her reactions. Take her to a movie and Dennys. If she still enjoys herself and it doesn't seem to bother her gradually expose the true you. I once showed up for a first date with a woman wearing bib overalls. She was extremly educated, 6 figure job and it didn't phase her at all. If they are really interested in you the beat up car and cheap resturant will not matter.

Answer 5

Look for women in places other then you are looking now. There is no reason you should change anything about you as far as dressing down or going to "cheap" places, that isn't fair to yourself. Its the women you are picking up that are the problem. Why don't you see if your male friends have any female friends that you may be interested in meeting, that way you have an idea on what type of female she is. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I would say the biggest giveaway that I have seen is that she get's bummed when you have a success or change because she can't be part of it (because you're not married or living together).
The best advice is.....don't live together or get married too soon. If she can't wait......she is not worth it. Also, ask lawyers the same question. I think it would be worth your money to pay a lawyer for an hour of their time to ask this exact same question of them. A lawyer will not only answer your question from a legal liability standpoint, but also from a personal experience one, because they deal with divorce (money) all the time.

Answer 7

When you go on a date, don't mention your money.
You could always try to date women that are richer than you then you become the gold digger not them.

Answer 8

"How do I not attract female gold diggers?" Well, you think you give off some sort of scent or that you have the word "sucker" written on your forehead and only they can see it? Listen. They are who they are and do what they do. Your thing is to see them for who they are and shut them down!

Answer 9

Don't wash, dress like a hobo, cut back on manners, and take her crappy places. That should get you all the ladies, especially the ones who are not gold diggers.

Answer 10

hmmm....this seems to be so obvious to me, i must have read it wrong....

you have accumulated a fortune (congratulations), but do you want to share that life with someone, or do you want to subconsciously lord it over others with your financial power?

if you date someone who you like then you wont mind sharing your money...sounds like you are a dog in a manger

i dont see the problem....a woman who is generous with what she has, albeit much less relatively to what you have, cant be a gold digga surely?

if you are really having problems meeting nice and genuine girls i should point out that i am single, and not a gold digga, have my own gold to support self, and very independantly minded too! mail me if you wanna chat further,