2006-10-21 23:30:15 · 12 answers · asked by MEGAN 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Of course you can grieve, you had that little ting growing inside you, you were planning a future together, it was your baby, and no one else can ever take that away from you, you take as long as you need to grieve, Good Luck and take care, you will never have to forget this baby, plant a plant, and know that it symbolises who you lost, it helped me, and I was only 5 weeks, no real fetus developed, but to me it was my baby.
2006-10-21 23:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by the mumma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you lost your baby. So far as asking if you can grieve, of course you can. You certainly don't need anyone's permission, and it's none of their business to say anything about it. Most women who have suffered a miscarriage will completely understand without you having to explain anything more. Guys with any brains in their heads will understand on some level, even if they can't empathize the way another woman will. And who cares what the idiots and insensitive types think? You do what feels right to you, and you do it until you feel you have finished. Don't do all the suffering alone, though. Find a shoulder to lean on until you are ready to stand on your own again. And don't feel like you have to explain all the details to everyone. It's enough to say you lost your baby, it doesn't matter if it was 1 week or 40 weeks, or somewhere in between. You lost a living person, and you have a perfect right to mourn the passing, without feeling like it has to be justified by some calendar age. And blow off any clod that tells you differently.
2006-10-22 07:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me at least 2 months to get over the mental side of having a miscarriage, the hormones and depression went into overdrive and I couldn't lift myself out of it. U will be fine but u MUST allow yourself to grieve in whatever way u need to. It is vital for your recovery. Another rthing i found id that people expected me to be "over it by now" after 2 weeks ad they just couldn't understand how i was feeling. Don't allow anyone to make u feel like u should be over it, if u r not. Make people close to u understand the emotions u r feeling. U will be fine, i promise, just give yourself time. Good luck and keep well
2006-10-22 07:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had 2 miscarriages close together about 8 and a half years ago, I still wonder what the babies would have been like. But i also think if i had gone to term with one of those babies, i wouldn't have my oldest and I wouldn't swap her for anything. I am sorry for your loss but please seek counselling if you are having trouble dealing with your loss. You could join a forum or group and talk to other mothers in this situation. Don't let people tell you get over it or you can have another one. You lost a baby and its a big deal.
2006-10-22 07:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by lividuva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal for you to grieve. I'm so sorry for you. You will find it lessens with time but I know you'll always remember. You can grieve for the baby but don't let it take over your life. Ok?
2006-10-22 06:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by greylady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let anyone tell you how or how long to grieve for the baby that you lost. Mourning the loss of a child -- born or unborn -- isn't something that anyone else has the right to tell you what or how to do. It's OK to feel how you feel and to seek help if you become overwhelmed.
You have my deepest sympathy, and I pray that you'll find comfort and peace.
2006-10-22 06:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its got absolutely nothing to do with anybody else. You have every right to grieve for what you've lost and it'll probably stay with you forever but as usual, time is a great healer. Deal with it as best you can and if you feel it's all getting too much go and talk to somebody please. I hope it all works out for you and that you get what you wish for.
2006-10-22 07:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still feel you are in the grieving process then don't let other's opinions. Everyone heals in different ways, and different rates.
2006-10-22 08:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by mizzgov_08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to grieve, then grieve. It doesn't matter what other people think. It happened to you not them.
2006-10-22 08:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by vgleason_102301 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to use Katie's Byron 4 question and the turn around. It is a process that will help you understand yourself and your emotions.
You can visit her website or simply watch her work with people on Youtube.com
2006-10-22 06:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by jt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋